I spoke with Legal Aid and Equal Right's for Fathers. I ended up filing Pro Se.
Yes, I asked the Court to appoint a Guardian Ad Litem.
I have a journal of all of our interactions since she left. I have been calling every morning at 10 am to ask if I can see him that day......a few times she would tell me "maybe" and that she would have to see how things worked out. Ultimately, she would call that evening and say that it wasn't going to happen.......the first 2 times that I saw him (I've only seen him 3 since she left), she came up to my WORK during the day. She would call and say "we're out here if you want to come out and see them".......Isn't this just a bunch of psychological abuse?
I can't believe that I'm actually having to go through all of this. Things were not supposed to be like this way and I would have never thought that I would have to fight to see my son.
She is playing the control card. I don't want to feed you any of the horror stories, because what you are going through is very difficult and it will get worse before it gets better. But, it does get better. You are doing everything you can, and just stay on track. Its all you can do.
She will always be who she is, and you can't change her. The only thing you can do is fight with what resources you have available to you. The huge upside is she sounds like she is cocky, and having a blast playing her games. She will ultimately be the catalyst to sway the judge in your favor.
A child
psychologist would be a great asset for you to have. See if you can't get one using the sexual abuse allegations as a reason. What you want to do is get the psychologist to evaluate you, your ex, and to start meeting with your son once a week.
I will wager that your ex will find ways to avoid having your son in to see the psychologist but that will all come out when the psychologist testifies and go in your favor. Judges like to have psychologists that do work already for the county, because they are more familiar with them. So find one that works with foster kids and/or has been appointed by the courts before.
I tried to get help for my hubby through Fathers United and outside of a support group, they really weren't much help to him. I don't have a high opinion of family law lawyers because they are not well regulated and so its very hard to find one that effectively advocates for you. Pro Se is a terrifying and stressful ordeal, but the upside is that you are advocating for yourself.