The TRO is active and in place now? If it is, then you should not be talking to her and she is right not talking to you (she can be arrested) Next time you are at court you can ask that the TRO have "XX may email regarding visits only". This way she is "allowed" to talk to you. Call the court where it was given and ask.
Our speficic TRO has no language in it that prohibits communication unless it is abusive.....and then, it's not enforceable by the Police. I don't think I've ever heard of someone being "arrested" for placing one civil phone call. Our TRO is primarily in place to restrict movement of the child.
Anyway, here's an update......
She showed up with an Attorney, I am still Pro Se.
On the motion for Temporary Orders the Judge ordered....
.....The TRO will stay in place until the case in final
.....The mother was ordered to submit to a UA yesterday
.....We will both have a psychological evaluation
.....There will be a social study performed
.....I will see my son for a supervised visit of 4 hours this saturday
.....On the 3rd weekend of September I will have my son from 8-6 on both Sat and Sun
.....Starting in October, I will have my son from 8am on Sat til 6pm Sun on the 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends.
.....Starting in October, I will have one mid week visit on Thursday from 6pm to 8pm
.....The case will be moved from an Associate Judge (doing
child support cases) to a District court
.....We go back to Court on Dec 7th to give a "status update" to the Judge.
Seeing as though I have spent approximately 3 hours with my son since July 21st, I am extremely happy with the outcome.