Snowrose-
SS kept a journal for the past 2 summers that he took back and forth. he got really sick of writing in it. i suppose we could try it again with him dictating it to me or
DH that way it is his ideas but us doing the "boring" part.
back to the PAS issue...could these also be examples of PAS?
1. telling SS to choose what district he wants to go to school in (dad's or mom's)
2. switching the Halloween costume that he made while with us because it was "her" halloween
3. telling him to choose what city he wanted to play baseball in. he chose ours and then she told him he had to play in hers
4. getting angry that we had a birthday party for him. told him it was dumb that he had to invite all of the boys in his class because he didn't like 1 boy. got upset about party in front of him to her mother on the phone.
5. told him that dad emailing the teacher about a specific topic was dumb (she says things are dumb often)
6. telling SS no each time he asks to stay an additional night and then questioning him whether it was his idea or DH and mine
I started thinking that maybe we were committing PAS as well. We are very careful to always say that both parents' rules are good and he should follow them no matter what, but ours are so different. We eat very healthy. He has chores here. DH reviews homework with him and makes sure he has no missing assignments. The list goes on. Because it is so different to home at mom's, we find ourselves explaining to him so he understands why it is different. Could this be making him feel like we think mom's rules and lifestyle are wrong? We have tried hard NOT to make him feel that way by saying that is how WE do it and not everyone does it. I just don't know anymore.
I am so fed up with this and my DH is very torn up inside. I will find that book. Thanks so much for your support.