I understand what your saying, but he has already screwed up my oldest daughter life( not his kid). She is emotionally scared for life and there is nothing I can do about it. He also sexually abused her, but theres nothing I can do about it, I tried. Yes this man IS mentally unstable, extremely mentally unstable. Theres nothing I can do about that either. My son whom is 10, understands what is going on and he is so disappointed by his BD, that he gave up on him months ago and wants my fiance to adopt him and his lil sister, but she doesn't know whats going on and that's the hard part in all of this. Actually his entire family is really screwed up. The ex father in law, deals pot, but can't prove that, but I actually want to take the BD back to court and have him drug tested, I am willing to do the same, just to prove I'm not doing them, but I know he is. I know so many horrible things about this man, but I can't do anything about it and it's so frustrating. Yes I know my fiance adopting the kids won't make this go away, but my children deserve a stable home without all the garbage that goes on. I constantly worry when their with him, not cuz I'm over protective either. The things I hear when my son and daughter come back from their BD visit is ridiculous.