DH's CO says "Husband will pay medical and dental co-payments and uncovered expenses, with the understanding that the children must use facilities and recieve services authorized under the military medical programs, for so long as the child is eligible for such services." BM
had her mother email me (yes, yes, I know... Why didn't she just email DH? lol). My SD
's doctor thinks she has depression and wants her in counseling (something DH has asked for for 2 years...). Her doctor also wants her in Behavior Modification Therapy for her ADHD (something BM denied DH, saying SD's issues aren't "behavior related, they are medicine related"... yeah...). SD's doctor is in BM's old town (20 minutes away). DH offered to change her doctor to a new one in BM's town when BM moved in Jan 2010, she said no. ANYWHO...The email from BM's mom said that BM CHOSE the counselor and behavior therapist in BM's city, who DON'T take DH's insurance. Now, SD's doctor gave a referral for a Behavior Therapist, and can give one for a counselor as well, that take DH's insurance. BM wants DH to pay the hourly prices of the appointments for behavior therapy and counseling in her new town instead of where it'd be covered in her old town, because of "gas prices and her time". (yes, because she's just THAT important that she can't take time from being a SAHM
to take her child to therapy...).
Anyway, DH replied to BM (CCed her mom, because her mom can tell her before SD start counseling), quoting the CO (including date, page, section, and quote), and stated that SD's doctor had given a referral, BM is chosing not to use that referral, and that DH will not be responsible for any fees relating to care with providers that BM choses knowing they are not providers authorized by DH's insurance.
My question is, can he get in trouble for not paying it, when it's in black and white in the CO? It SPECIFICALLY states that she has to use facilities that take his insurance if he is to be responsible for the costs. There wouldn't be a co-pay for counseling, and for the Behavior Modification Counseling, there may be a SMALL co-pay, which he would pay if she went through an authorized provider. However, she wants him to pay the FULL hourly fee for BOTH doctors, because she chooses not to use providers who take the insurance, because of her "time" and gas costs...I think she may try to pull the "he wanted it" and "I'm a SAHM". BUT, there ARE providers in the local area that take his insurance, and she is CHOSING to be a SAHM. Her baby was born back in March, and she said she's not going back to work to be a SAHM (which, they can't afford, but not my problem or concern, since DH provides everything SD needs).