Yes! Everything went wonderful. Thanks for asking.
The judge was very fair I have to say. The court ended up giving her less than I was already giving her which was a big win for me.
She walked in with a lawyer which surprised me because she is always claiming to be broke and suddenly she could afford a lawyer? It's no wonder my kids had been coming over looking dishevled, it was because she's probably paying astounding fees to this so called lawyer who ended up settling for less than what I was already giving her voluntarily.
I will now go ahead and fight for joint
legal custody. I did try to negotiate a deal with her outside of court through her lawyer where I would get the kids every other week as opposed to every weekend and STILL pay her
child support. The lawyer said he would speak to her but when he called he said there was no talking to her and that she did not want to agree to that arrangement. Even her own lawyer thought she was crazy for not taking the deal and told me to "do what I had to do". The reason being that if I get
joint physical custody I don't have to pay her as much child support because I would have them half the time.
Now I will have the chance to speak on all of the things that are going on with my kids care that I disagree with. Such as the kids sharing a bed. The kids claiming that she is smoking in the house around them. The mom leaving my kids with the alcoholic grandmother for her to go on party vacations.
I could go on forever.
The funny thing is that she is now going for her 30 credits past her masters degree. For teachers, this automatically bumps up her salary to $90,000 which means that when we go back to court in two years, I will be giving her less than I am giving her now since her salary gets factored into the 25%. Before this whole ordeal, I did not know that the court took her salary into consideration when calculating the figures.
I would've given her what I was giving her for the remainder of my children's childhood years but she wanted this, she brought us and our kids into the court system. I don't see a reason why I would not get
joint custody when compared to her and her family. Her family is a disaster. Her brother is a drug dealer & her mother an alcoholic. She herself is a boarderline alcoholic. I have the facebook posts to prove it. And these are the types of people she is leaving my children with.
I am very happy, I feel vindicated and no longer like I am the one being taken to the chopping block. I am now ready to fight for my kids and become proactive with this whole situation. Along with custody will come the divorce and hopefully with that freedom. I just want to be a father to my children. Nothing more nothing less.