I have posted about a couple of difficult exchanges. The most recent, Tuesday, we did not engage when mother was making calm demands that we give her 24 hour notice when we take the child anywhere out of town. Today, she called and was already at the hospital (in the same town she said she was not given proper notice about the other day). She had not notified us that she would be taking child out of town. Per
court order, we take custody of the child when the mother is hospitalized. She called my husband and said we could pick up child this evening or tomorrow. He told her this evening.
In the background, the grandmother said, "Tell 'em I will get there when I get there." Mother stated what the grandmother said and stated they were not sure when she would be leaving hospital and travelling home. My husband told her to just let us know when she was near the exchange point.
We waited 4 hours for the call. Finally, at 7:44, mother called me and asked why we did not meet her mother at 7:00? I told her because they were to call when she was near and the mother stated no, that she had told us 7:00. I said that was not true, but we could leave right now. Then she told me No, that her mother had waited long enough and was not coming back out. I told her they lived 9 minutes from the exchange spot and she would come back or I would have to police at her door. I hung up and we went to the police station. Now, I know the police will not actually help, but I had to try.
The town police called for the county deputy to meet us. When I went to the exchange location - low and behold there was the grandmother and her brother with the child. After we had child I called and told them the deputy could disregard.
Since then...mother has been posting all night on FB how wonderful and blessed her life is. I feel like we are in a nightmare - being jerked around.