-----As far as the religion issue.... MANY people find peace, comfort, and guidance from Biblical teachings. Each passage is interpreted differently IMO, depending at what they are feeling at the moment. Everyone gets what they need as an individual, at whatever "place " they are in their lives.-----
Which is exactly why I believe preaching is wrong, UNLESS the person requests it. Everyone has the right to their own opinions and beliefs, but NOT the right to preach. Even though I believe different than many, I respect everyones right to believe in THEIR truth.
-----I think, the MAIN focus of this whole post has been lost.... The issue should be, and should ALWAYS BE, the CHILD(REN)!!
This is not a Mom is right Dad is crap thing. -----
Again, exactly what I said. TGB believes the mother isn't doing "enough" to get the father to BE a father. I simply said that no one can change others. And no, it's not a Mom is right Dad is crap thing....Everyone else wanted to help mud to help her child...until TGB failed to read the original post.
-----This child is obviously suffering, lets remember that. He/she probably already feels confused. I believe the suggestion of counseling was offered. Has
BM considered contacting BD to facilitate short visits, at a neutral location to "reintroduce" father and child?? Maybe even some joint counseling sessions for Dad and child?? How about BOTH parents attend classes on learning to co-parent????-----
I did suggest counseling. That way, if the father bails again, and after 8 years of doing it, it's more than likely he'll do it again, the child will have a professional helping her. Also, since he reminds me of my daughters father, I honestly don't believe he or muds ex UNDERSTAND what they're doing to their child. It's a long shot, but maybe a professional telling them what they're doing will get them to change. The bm has also mentioned hardly ever knowing "where" the father is, so she relies on him contacting her. And...coparenting classes would be GREAT.
-----Ok, the soapbox is now free....-----
Color me a moron, but I've never understood this whole soapbox thing. Everyone seems to use it, I believe I have too...but WTH does it mean? lol