>Hi I am new to this and my dh is having severe problems with
>his ex. She has decided to pick up and move without notifying
>us. This is against the law.
Against the law?? To move?? nah,, damned inconvenient, but hardly illegal.
We finally found her and
>actually got to see the child. Four days after we took her
>back, the ex went to school and yanked her out only to move
>again. We were supposed to have her for Christmas but being
>that it was a week before, we did not get to see her. We just
>found out last week that she is living in a motel.
Ok, you probably have sufficient grounds to seek a custody mod due to unstable home life.
My dh pays
>over $540 a month in support and she gets even more from her
>first ex. She does not hold a job and continues to move. We
>told her that dd was more than welcome to stay with us, she
>refused. I don't like the idea of my sd staying in a motel
>while we have a good home to give her. The ex has refused to
>let us have the court appointed visitation and everytime we
>threaten court she lets us have her.
You will hear here,, document, document document. You HAVE to file a report EACH time visitation is denied. They add up to contempt and CAN reverse custody.
When we take her back,
>she has her phone disconnected for a few months so we can't
>get a hold of her. We are going 6 months at a time without
>visitation.
Not having a phone really doesnt mean much.
We have tried many atty's but no one will take
>the case even though they say we have a great case.
Why? it would help us help you if you can tell us why they wont take the case.
We have
>everything documented. What should we do? Also does anyone
>know how to make the ex stop bringing up the past with dh?
what past????
>She is so jealous that everytime she talks with him about
>their daughter, she makes awful remarks about me and my son.
>The ex keeps insisting that dh have visitation alone and not
>bring sd here to our home, not because I am mean to her, but
>because the ex doesn't want her daughter to like me. We are
>expecting a daughter and comments were made about that. Dh
>told her to move on with her life and stop worrying about
>ours. Any suggestions how to help that?
>Thanks for any help. We are about to go crazy with this
>situation.
As far as her comments and atitude, you are flat SOL there,, get used to it. Vindictive ex's are the biggest factor in 2nd marriage failures.....Good luck.