I know the feeling. Hubby's ex was Catholic but didn't bother to get married by a Catholic priest. I am Catholic as well (hubby is Southern Baptist). Anyway, for all those non-Catholics out there, you have to usually go through a long, painful process to get an annulment so you can get married in the Catholic church, even if you were married originally in another Church. Well, we went to start the process and since his ex was Catholic and didn't get married in the Catholic church, they deemed her marriage to hubby null-and-void. So legally, I'm the second, but according to her church (and mine), in God's eyes, I'm the only Mrs. E. His ex thought it would take us months to get the annulment. Thanks to her stupidity we got it in less than 30 days. It really burnt her ass when the paper was just sent to her saying the church doesn't recognize her marriage and hubby is free to marry again. I just laugh. Small concelation, but it really annoys her, so that makes it even better!