I've been married 1 1/1 years.
DH's ex has done some pretty rotten things that I cannot seem to get past. When we 1st met I thought I knew what I was getting myself into as I grew up as part of a step-family. That was until I realized what a true PBFH the ex was.
She moved 90 miles away with the kids so it is impossible for DH to particiapate in school, activities, etc. She tried to push him out of their life and replace him with SF who is a violent convict. She even made the kids call SF daddy and DH the other daddy.
DH had it court ordered he speak to his kids everyday so he could stay an important part of their daily life. Of course she screwed with all of his visitation in every way possible. She even gave specific instructions to all the teachers not to speak to DH. They have
joint custody and we've had to send everyone copies of the divorce and even then they asked
BM's permission.
SF regularly threatens DH often in front of the kids, saying things like "I'm going to make you my b**** and I'm going to f*** you with my fist and without vaseline. BM had DH's brand new truck torched, took out a $5,000 loan under his name after the divorce and then let it go into default. Last year she had DH arrested 2x; she picked up the phone he had designated for his children and when he asked to speak to the kids she hung up and went to the police and told them he threatened her and SF and he was thrown in jail. Prior to this he was never arrested in his life. She filed a petition over a year ago for reduced phone contact and
supervised visitation basically because she did not like doing her share of the driving. So we are no embrolied in a cu7stody trial. She had the kids lie to everyone, the GAL, the evaluator, etc. and still does, that they are afraid of their daddy, etc. This is just the beginning...
Well now that were in court and BM is LOSING she wants to be all nicey nice. She wants to attend
SS's baseball games when he is with us even though we cannot do the same, she wants DH to call her and discuss the kids but she tells everytone she is afraid of him and had him arrested 2x. She wants to be apart of/intrude on the little time they are wth us.
How do I live with this PBFH in my life? I cannot forgive her for these horrible things she has done to DH. I know it is DH's problem, but I'm the one who has to pick up the pieces. I'm the one whose vacation was ruined because I had to drive DH 2x 90+ miles to surrender himself. Sit in court all day for him to be arraigned then find a bank to give me $2500 at 5:30PM and drive another 50 miles to bail him out of a maximum security prison after sitting their for 10 hours only to have to drive back in the morning. All this with my poor dog in the car. I had to take day after day off of work for this.
I HATE this woman and do not know how to cope with her for the next 13 years. The kids are only 8 and 5 and DH and I just had a baby 3 months ago.