DH has been on vacation this week...its a scheduled week for his workplace. For years, bm has allowed dh to have
ss....but, since he is now CP, she demanded the 4th of July as
court order this year. so, dh was fine with that, though it did mean we could not go anywhere.
Dh suggested she have an extra weekend with ss, trying to be nice...and she tried to keep ss half of the week. That was a battle...but, she did bring him home Sunday and then asked to pick him up earlier on the 4th...he allowed that...then she got here and said he may not be home at the pick-up time. This is when we were picking him up to head out for vacation....and she had known for two weeks. So, that was an arguement and we were surprised when ss was there at the scheduled time Wednesday.
So, her two weeks were to begin today, Friday. SS wanted to stay with us a couple more days as he has spent more time with bm on dh's vacation.......Since this was his request and since he is almost 15, dh told him - you have to ask your mother.
SS called her and this resulted in a long drawn out argument with her accusing dh of violating the order...etc.
DH tried explaining to her - this is not me, this is ss' decision. She accused dh of using ss as a messenger...and could not understand that dh was not refusing to deliver ss....ss was asking to stay two more days.
She began fussing about everything else. Ss got on phone again and she told him that she would have DH arrested if ss wasnt there this evening.
So, ss feels he is to blame for this. And all he did was ask to stay until Sunday - she woudl get her two weeks either way.....
And dh is being blamed for using ss to pass a message...and trying to violate the order -which does not specify dates.....
Does anyone else feel that ss asking for time he wanted is wrong? DH was not the one saying he didnt want to take him today....
Oh..and dh cursed on the phone and she told him - this is the last time you will curse me! She curses dh and calls him names on a constant basis....dh cursed, but not at her personally, just the situation....