I've been here off and on for the past 5 years or so. What a roller coaster. I'm done now. My husband and I have divorced, so I am no longer the stepmom. I was never really allowed to develop any kind of relationship with my ex-husband's daughters, so I don't anticipate a whole lot now. Although, since I've been around,
BM has been very generous to ex-wife #2--she sees the girls more than their dad. I've thought about playing the whole, "You're right, he was such a horrible person" act to get on her good side, and then tell her what I really think about all the crap she's pulled in the past 7 years. But I guess I am mostly just relieved to be out of that mess.
Now I am the custodial BM. Kind of weird to be on the "other side," after battling things for so long. Maybe I will be back to SPARC. Who knows?