This morning
DH's ex called up and told him "You win."
DH asked "I win what?" they had not been having any disagreements that he knoew of... since she has not returned his call in over 6 months he figured they weren't arguing.
"You win,
SS is in jail," she said and hangs up.
Dh calls her back. She will not pick up. Dh bites his tongue and asks her to please call him and let him know what is going on and what she is talking about.
He calls 3 times over the course of the morning and then calls his mother and asks if she knows what
BM is tallking about.
It seems SS had met a girl and did not know their age difference -- he is not to be around anyone more than 24 months younger than him. He got all figitty when he was asked on his polygraph if he and the girl had had "relations". So since he failed they shoved his fanny in jail til next Monday.
If he fails on Monday, he does 36 weeks in Juvie... so since it is all DH's "fault" that SS can't tell the truth, or keep his body parts to himself, we are gonna hear it for the next 36 weeks at least from DH's mother.
MIL and BM are even trying to figure out how to bail him out. I say leave his fanny there for the next 5 days and let him get it into his head that this is serious stuff... such co-dependent behavior is harming him. You can't rescue a teenager from all of his consequences, or you kill his ability to make good choices and think out results of his own actions.