>I am new here but wished to thank everyone in advance for
taking the time to read this post and respond accordingly.<
My posts are rediculous in length sometimes, usually because I enter this place with the presumtion that people where will give a damn and want to help. This is exactly why I am answering your post.
>Housewife with 3 boys, 10 and under is my title.<
What do you mean "title"? Do you have
joint custody?
>Unfortunately having my amazing children had to be a trade off
for being married to the ultimate
narcissist.<
Do you use narcissist asa personal jibe, or do you hace a documented diagnosis detailing
narcissistic tendencies? I ask because the first can be used against you as statement unbecoming with intent to alienate if entered into court.
So much for FREE SPEECH.
>5-I just happened to remember my own credit cards from before
and that is how I am going to pay the attorney<
This is not intended to be legal advice, howeve, having spent 5 years fighting 5 times as hard to get half the distance in protecting my parental rights against my ex's father (also her lawyer).
In the time I have chased my parental rights, the one thing I have heard over and over from lawyers and end-users alike is:
"He [She] who FILES FIRST wins."
>He has told me before that if I ever left him, not only would I loose the
children but also I would be left with his debt from his old company which he walked away from.<
Do what is BEST no convenient for the kids - and don't buy into threats. His does not sound legally founded. For this kind of advice you should turn to financial advisors.
>He is taking us on a trip to Europe and the middle east to visit his family,(yes he spends money) on the 30th.<
If it were me, I would refrain from allowing the children to enter a foreign counrty (particularly in The Middle East which favors the father over the mother by cultural dispossition) without etching protective order in stone - in fact I would not permit the trip p e r i o d.
>I really want to file before we leave, but don't know if that is the right step to take.<
Better to do too much and not need t than to do too little and need it.
>By the way, he keeps all bills,receipts and paperwork in his office. Should I go to his office and try to make copies of documents?<
You can subpoena these documents which would pose a better argument for your case than if you get caught doing anything which could be miscontrued as your breaching the law.
>could I have a recored conversation with his mother who does not speak English and is being supported by him to get he to say that she does not own his company?<
Too much trouble for too little impact. Your case might be better served by showing that he is devisively using the mother in order to evade his ordered responsabilites.
"Action = Nirvana; Hesitation = Oblivion" ---Sun Tzu "The Art of War"