I wanted to get off of Soc's board with this.
This is notnew's wife. I agree, starting your period is more dramatic for some young ladies then for others. However, it is a natural event that nothing can be done to prevent. The mother has adequate time with the child to explain what will happen, how it will feel, and what to do when it happens. I see this as a blatent excuse for mother to steal time from dad and using the menstruation thing to get her way.
Look, when I started my period, I was well informed, it was no big deal. As a matter of fact, I was mortified at how nervous and excited my mother got when I told her and it made me wish I didn't have to tell her. I knew a woman who bought her daugher flowers when she started and then confided to me she was hurt when she saw her daughter had thrown the flowers and card away. I assume the child was embarassed at her mother's over reaction. Every event in a kids life doesn't have to be THE NEXT BIG THING.
My husband's ex has gotten in court over the last two years and uses the starting her period thing for
SD as an excuse for every little and big problem that has come up. SD has cramps so she can't go to school very much and when she does make it to school 90% of the time she is late. SD has been on an emotional roller coaster since starting her period and it has been difficult for mom to deal with AND SD doesn't really want to see dad anymore now. Yet there are no medical problems despite repeated tests, etc. Of course, SD has no rules living with mom and gets whatever she asks for so of course she agrees with Mommy Dearest. On and On and On. EXCUSES!
I am sorry. I had SEVERE cramps, heavy bleeding, endometriosis severely that required a hysterectomy and I NEVER used it as an excuse for my failure to do the right thing as a person.
BM has used it as an excuse for her failure to parent and part of the justification why custody shouldn't be changed due to her failure to parent. Guess what? It worked!
I am sick of crocodile tears and excuses for events that all women go through being used as excuses for being a piece of crap person and parent. As a woman who enjoys the rights we have had to bust our butts to have, I get HIGHLY offended when this type of behavior is tolerated.
While I do think it would be beneficial for this dad to be sensitive to the events upcoming in his growing daughters life, I agree with Helping hands that discussing with mom in advance and putting a plan of action together is sufficient. No court case is necessary and in my opinion is just a ploy to keep the child away from the father. Clearly an abuse of the system and clearly should NEVER be tolerated by the courts.
I hope I didn't piss anyone off. Just had to sound off.
JMHO.