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Thank you for the input. Its basically what I have come to expect at this point. Not sure if the mediation is court ordered or her choice. I would hope to be informed by my lawyer on this, but havent been as of yet. What I have been told is NOT to talk to her about any proceedings, only ask about our son and thats it. I have been keeping a journal including phone records of unanswered calls, all reciepts for money orders, pics and reciepts for b-day and x-mas gifts. The one thing she keeps insisting on is wanting me to "sign off" on a schedule for while she is here the last week of may. I have told my atty this on the 27th of april and gave him a response to her proposed schedule. One that I felt comfortable with, but it seems I have no say in the scheduling of this visit. I'll take what I can get at this point. 5 minutes, 2 hours whatever until I get some court orders for visitation.                                                                                                                                                                                                                        My dog looks quite similiar, except that he's All APBT and spoiled rotten, thinks he's a lap dog as well at close to 90lb.s though. I have never heard of a Vizsla before. I'll have to check them out.

Beautiful dog by the way sherry1. APBT?

Paternity has been established, unfortunately no judge has seen proof of this yet. Any advice as to what will happen at the mediators appointment? What can I do to get the best possible outcome? Child support enforcement has been advised that  this is a civil case and is getting established through mediation, also the fact that I do give her support which she hasnt denied. Why do some mothers do things like this? I know from research that I dont have alot to stand on right now, I am just hoping that things will change in the future. This has been devastating. Painful beyond all things imaginable.

I have waited long enough I suppose. I'm not much of a forum poster, but here goes. My son who was born out of wedlock has been in the state of Connecticut for 8mos.. He was taken there by my Ex GF without my knowledge under cover of night in the beginning of Oct. 06. He was 4 months old. In August of that same year I hired an attorney because I knew that it was going to be a struggle to have a relationship with my son. I could clearly see it coming.I had no idea she would leave the state we lived in(FLA). From the time she was pregnant it was a hard road, but I managed to hang on as long as I could. I can give specifics as to why it was so difficult if anyone would like to know. It's a very long list. I had to bring police officers to the house just to see him and gather some of my belongings and was told by officers that I didnt have to leave,but it would be in my best interest. Needless to say this has been the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life, not to mention my 12 yr. old daughter's as well since she hasnt been able to develop a relationship with her brother as of yet. My newest dillema is the reason I am here. I have read all of your posts everyday until my eyes bleed and I have learned quite much. Many thanks to all of you. Anyway, she(Ex GF) is planning a visit here in FL at the end of May. The last week. My Atty has made a mediation appointment for the friday before she is to leave. I begged to have the appt. made for the friday when she arrives but according to my atty this isnt possible. She has no intentions of letting me see my son for more than 2 hrs at a time and has made it clear that her itenerary(SIC) doesnt include any quality time with my family to interact and bond with our son. Grandmothers,Great Grandmothers,sister,cousins,aunts and uncles are of no concern to her,not to mention myself,his father. Are there any types of emergency visitation that I can make happen and enforce  before she arrives? My atty seems thwarted. After 8 months with no custody/visitation/child support order in place ,I am just a little desperate obviously. Any help would be greatly appreciated. This woman(EX GF) has dragged this situation out until it feels like an eternity has passed since I have seen my son. I have been patient with my atty but nearing the end of my rope. Thank you for reading this......JK in FLA