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Thanks for all the input.  In a perfect world I would not be relocating.  In fact this is the last resort.  Part of it has to do with  a rare blood disorder I got from a bite a year and half ago.  The only known specialist in the area I need treatment for this is located down in charlotte north carolina.  the second is that I had a great job as a top executive for over 15 years.  Made good money and lived well within my means.  However;  got sick, company moved and I got laid off and have dwindled through retirement funds and everything else I have saved to try and make it up here in connecticut.  unfortuantley the job market is not that great and i need to be able to travel one week a month to Carolina for a blood transfusion.  that makes it real tough to get a job.  Besides the transportation costs involved.

  walk a mile in my shoes first...before criticizing me.  My kids are my life.  I am the cub scout group leader and active in a father daughter/son program through the YMCA  with all my kids and the kids soccer and baseball coaches.  Nothing is more important to me than my kids and my wife.  There just comes a time when I had to make a tough descision and after six months of agonizing over it this is the only opportunity that makes sense for the whole family.

  So,  please do not criticize me or any other poster for what they want to do without knowing why they are doing it.   the reason we are here is because of our kids.  And I do thank everyone for their input.  it has been helpful.
 

Hello.  I am new ot this.  Here is my situation.  My ex-wife and I divorced seven years ago.  we have a visitation schedulke in place that works for  both of us.  we have had our bumps in the road like everyone else.  Two and half years a go I remarried.  My new wife was offered a job in North carolina (charlotte area) that pays three times what she is making here and almost double what i make.  The court in connecticut granted me the right to leave the state.  I am in the proess fo trying to modify the current visitation order with my ex-wife.  She has an atorney who is very aggressive and rude.  In no loss for words has basically said that i can go pound sand for what i am looking for.  Now,  before i tell you what i asked for let me preface this by saying that a year and half ago I was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder that keeps me from working full time.  My current wife ahs worked two jobs to keep us afloat.  this move will allow us to  live comfrotable within our means.

  I have propsed the following visitation schedule which i thought was fair:

every summer vacation  beginning one week after school ends to one week before school begins.

Every other year i get chrsitmas break from the day school ends to 36 hours before school begins.

The same school years i get christmas vacation i also receive spring break with the same time schedule.

The opposite years I woudl get thanksgiving break and winter recess.

So,  in essence I get our daughter three times a year.  She told me that was too much.  Also,  wants me to pay ALL costs involved in picking up and returning the child to her and I am responsible for the travel both ways.

  I told her I would go one way and she go the other way and we are each responsible for our own expenses.  I am on a limited budget and income because of my illness and have one child with my new wife and anothe on the way and can not  do that kind of travel or expense.

  We have a court date in two weeks.  Any feedback of precedents on how a judge might sway on this situation woudl be greatly appreciated.