FT, let me tell you a story...
I knew a man who had three beautiful children. Two boys and one girl.
He and his wife split up when the kids were 5, 3, and 18 months.
The man saw his children every other weekend, and sent child support every month for 18 months.
One weekend, he went to pick up his kids, and the house was empty. The BM had disappeared...
He learned from others that she had moved "somewhere in California".
For two years, he heard not a word, then the state of California came after him for CS because BM had applied for welfare...
Soon after his new wife set up for the children to come see him for a week. The oldest boy (by that time 8) did not like his Step-Father or Mother and didn't want to go back (the kids were getting abused).
The BM said fine, that new guy was more important than her son.
KNOWING that the children were being abused, Dad still let BM take younger son and daughter back to California.
He saw his kids once 5 years later, when BM was back in state to see relatives and she called to see if he wanted to see them.
His younger son moved back to state when 17, daughter moved back to state Dad when she graduated highschool.
You know what? This man gave up before even trying. The kids would ask him repeatedly, "Why didn't you get us away from Mom and Step-Dad?"
There is a lot of bitterness from these kids.
They understand that Dad may have lost, but they to this day can not understand why he didn't even TRY...
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Your trying, you're giving it your best shot. No matter the outcome, the kids will understand this when they get older (if they don't already).
Family Court is a heck of a battle field. But atleast you are standing up and fighting for your children's rights!
Keep your chin up. We know what you are going through!
BETH
I knew a man who had three beautiful children. Two boys and one girl.
He and his wife split up when the kids were 5, 3, and 18 months.
The man saw his children every other weekend, and sent child support every month for 18 months.
One weekend, he went to pick up his kids, and the house was empty. The BM had disappeared...
He learned from others that she had moved "somewhere in California".
For two years, he heard not a word, then the state of California came after him for CS because BM had applied for welfare...
Soon after his new wife set up for the children to come see him for a week. The oldest boy (by that time 8) did not like his Step-Father or Mother and didn't want to go back (the kids were getting abused).
The BM said fine, that new guy was more important than her son.
KNOWING that the children were being abused, Dad still let BM take younger son and daughter back to California.
He saw his kids once 5 years later, when BM was back in state to see relatives and she called to see if he wanted to see them.
His younger son moved back to state when 17, daughter moved back to state Dad when she graduated highschool.
You know what? This man gave up before even trying. The kids would ask him repeatedly, "Why didn't you get us away from Mom and Step-Dad?"
There is a lot of bitterness from these kids.
They understand that Dad may have lost, but they to this day can not understand why he didn't even TRY...
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Your trying, you're giving it your best shot. No matter the outcome, the kids will understand this when they get older (if they don't already).
Family Court is a heck of a battle field. But atleast you are standing up and fighting for your children's rights!
Keep your chin up. We know what you are going through!
BETH