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Does anyone know how the courts determine who gets to claim the kids for tax purposes? Do they look at the incomes of the parents.

I have physical custody and my ex gets every other weekend and 5 1/2 weeks in summer parenting time.

He makes $6.00 per hour and I make $18.00/hr. He lives with his wife's mother. Wife doesn't work as far as I know.

My husband makes $18.00 per hour. Our income is much higher than his. I provide all medical/dental/optical insurance.

Just curious how that works.

Just wondering what others think.

I realize there are many Custodial parents out there that do this to their children but what about Non custodial parents?

Just curious on how others see this.

Anyone familiar with objection hearings?

My attorney filed ex parte referring our case to the Friend Of The Court for review and recommendation regarding parenting time.

Ex Parte was signed and meeting was scheduled with the Friend Of The Court.

Today the Friend Of The Court called and said the meeting was cancelled as the ncp filed an objection to the ex parte

Is anyone familiar with this?

Hi,

Does anyone know what a FOC investigation entails?  Requested FOC help with parenting time issues and more specific order.

Thanks for the ideas.  


Currently already have motion filed and am trying to get parenting time changed regarding extracurriculars and transportation.  However, has asked the ncp to come meet with attorney and work these matters out without having to attend hearing.  Ncp hasn't attempted to schedule something so that we can work these matters out.  I know the ncp doesn't have the money to hire an attorney so I don't know why he wouldn't want to meet.

I don't have a problem with ncp having extra time with out children, I actually think it would be awesome if he would be involved with the kids and their activities but he chooses not to.  There have been many times when I mentioned that all he has to do is call if he wants to spend time with the kids.  He hasn't taken the opportunity.

Maybe I am wrong for not letting him keep the kids until 9:30 and just grinning and bearing it, but I have come to learn that I give an inch he just continues to push and push for more.  He knows full well that 9:30pm is late and I work midnights so that is why he requests to have the kids that late (in my opinion).

As far as the kids playing both parents, I believe our children play that game as well.  Try to let the kids know that if they have issues with ncp they deal with ncp on it and if they have issues with me they deal with me on it.  Kids always say they don't like ot talk to ncp about their issues there because the entire family will gang up on them.  NCP lives with wife, mil and extended family.

Thanks again for the ideas.

In my opinion, you are entitled to be with your daughter just as much as the cp is.  If your daughter didn't want to come because she had a school funciton or some event which interfered with your visit, that might be worth missing.  Your daughter needs her time with her friends and to have a social life, but she has time when she is with the cp to see her friends and you only get a limited amount of time with her.  This time with your daughter is very important and she needs to know you want to be a part of her life (which obviously you do).  However even in that case I would still seek makeup time as you are entitled to your time with your daughter.  

Does daughter call her friends while she is visiting with you just to keep in touch?  

These are just my opinions.

Just very frustrating when our children want to participate in sports, etc the ncp has fit but he can choose to give up midweeks, weekend visits because our children have poison ivy or a cold.  Makes no sense.

Just this past Wed he called and cancelled his midweek visit because he had an appointment.  

Guess I find it frustrating because I know there are many ncp's out there that have so much trouble with the cp wanting the ncp involved. Where in my situation, it seems the ncp doesn't want to be involved unless it is going to cause problems for me and our children.

That is a good idea, just doubt he'll go for it considering it would mean him driving the kids to school.  Normally I pick the kids up from visits.  Is a good suggestions thought think I might use that one as an option.

He and his wife both informed me that they have a problem making more than one trip to our town for the kids.

What are you not liking about what I said, maybe I worded something wrong.  

I do understand that my ex is entitled to his time.  Just for informational purposes my ex tried to get me for contempt back in 2000 and the case was thrown out before we ever went into the courtroom.  I have been down that road.   That is why I feel it is so important to get an order that is more specific to protect both of us.

I truthfully feel that as a parent that the ncp should want to particiipate and I know that he cant be forced however our children should not be denied especially if it is only one sport per year.  Now if the children were enrolled in a bunch of activities I could understand it but they aren't.

Guess I don't understand what you are saying and why.

Normal times for weekends are from 6:00pm on Friday until 6:00pm on Sunday.

You are correct about the order extending time until 8:00pm on his alternate Sunday for make up time.

Kids are normally in bed 10:00pm on school nights.  I go to bed at 10:00pm as I work midnights.  
Another problem with his 9:30 request is that I pick my youngest son up at the same time as my older two children (meet his father at a gas station just down the road from where my oldest children get picked up) and my youngest son's dad is driving about an hour away.  

ONce I pick the kids up I have to drive home thats a half hour, time kids get ready for bed and settled in it will be after 11:00pm.  

My ex deliberately picked 9:30 because he knew as we have discussed in the past that I prefer not to extend past 9:00pm.

He was being so insistant on it that I finally agreed to the 9:30 but only for the two nights during drivers ed.  After that he wrote back stating that he would just give up his midweek time during drivers ed and on his fridays if I want I can drive our son to his house after drivers ed is over.  

My attorney is scheduling a hearing with the friend of the court and I have some options for makeup time when extracurriculars interfere with his time.  My main concern is ensuring that our children are not denied to play sports because the ncp won't participate or allow me to take them.

This year both children were denied football and basketball because my ex wanted me to drive all over the state wherever he was camping pick the kids up, take them to practices and then return them to him after practice.