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Thank you Soc it is nice to get this information before the court date, and I am very sorry about not reading the rules. It will not happen again.

Maverick

Hello all and Soc,

I've been reading through here for a bit, and have a quick question of my own.

My girlfriend has been divorced for 9 months now, and the ex is taking her back to court to contest a part of the decree. In the decree it is stated that he take on the marriage debt if she agreed to a slight decrease in child support. Now is contesting the marriage dept. As of now, the judge has not thrown it out, and the court date is fast approaching. Is there a reason for her to be concerned? This is in Wyoming. Thank you for your time, I am trying to help her as much as possible, because this will more than likely end up impacting me in the near future. The custody questions will likely come too. :(

Thank you,
Maverick

Thank you for taking the time to help with this. I know that both parents must sign, and I'm sure that he will use this against us in the future. Good idea about filing a motion or something in case I do get overseas orders. I have spent most of my career overseas so far, so I might never have to do it again, but I want to be sure of my future. I will read them all, thanks for the heads up.

It just makes sense that the CP will move away from the NCP. That's life. I grew up in 22 different states and lived in 54 different school zones, so I know from a childs point of view that coping isn't that hard. I even think it broadens their preperation for the future.

As far as the it's my career and not the Mom's, that sucks. I do not want this to become a me or the children thing, because it just isn't fair to them, her or me. She already can't stand the way their father is with the kids, and I know she won't want them with him all the time. I will end up losing then. It sucks that I have to worry about so much just because I'm in love. I guess we just need to play it by ear and hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

Thanks,
Maverick

Thank you for the help. The boys are 8 and 9 right now. Right now, I can't see this coming up for a few years, but preperation never hurt. I don't even know if he would sign the childrens passports simply out of spite. It's really a pain for me, and for the mother as you can imagine.

Thanks again,
Maverick

Does anyone have a clue? Thank you for your help,

Mav

Hello all!

Quick rundown....I am military and will be getting married in the near future, and I am wondering how to help my future wife deal with custody/visitation of her childeren when and if we get stationed overseas. She has primary costody, and she curently lives in the same town with her ex so he gets quite a bit of the childrens time now. He really doesn't care for the boys, he is quite vindictive and does things to just hurt her. She will be moving to my town(4 hours away), so we know that they have to go back to the mediator to amend vistation due to the distance. What are some usual visitation senerios for a situation like this? Mostly worried about overseas.

Thank you for your time,

Mav

"Teach the kids to be thier own advocate. Teach them to go see the guidanc ecounsleor when they feel scared or stressed. Thisinvoves teaching them what those things mean and how they feel."

Thank you all for your help.


And this is what we are doing. Sometimes they are scared to see the counselor, but after they do, boy is it night and day. They feel so much better, so much more normal after they get all this stuff off there chest. And the say they are happier. They are 9 and 10, and yes, the counselor will be testifing in court with us in June. He cannot believe that the state is letting this continue, but he is unsure what to do because of crossing state lines. He hopes the judge will put a stop to this permanently. We have our proof and are keeping our fingers crossed.

No, no, no....the conselor tried to report it to the CPS in the state that it was occuring in. They said there was nothing they could do. Which is BS. So I called and filed a report. Hopefully they will open a case based on the information I gave them. They just seem to think the mental abuse is a low priority. After fighting with our lawyer on the phone today, we finally got him to say he would take action for an emergency hearing. His excuse to not do it before, and his reluctance to do it now, is that it wont do any good. He says that there is no available court time, and that the judge wont make time to hear it. I'm thinking it could be some BS, but what do I know. I just want it on file! Thanks,

Mav

My two step sons(9 &10) are being mentally and emotionally abused by there father (and stepmother) during his out of state visitation that happen every other weekend. The kids are going nuts and are starting to show physical signs of the mental pain they are going through. Wetting bed again, getting sick and throwing up due to the stress, lack of sleep and change of eating habits. They have told their counselor/child psychologist what their Dad and stepmom are doing to them and has been doing to them. The CPS didn't want to deal with it since it isn't physical/sexual abuse. I filed a report anyways and I am waiting to hear if they will asign a case worker. Anyways, my wife's lawyer is reluctant to do anything as we go to court for a redue of custody in Jun. These boys may not mentally or maybe even physically survive the next few months because of what is going on. The abuse and constant mental pressure the dad and his current wife are putting on the boys has gotten worse lately because of the upcoming court date. We cannot file a TRO due to lack of physical proof either. By no means is this just a recent thing though. What can our attorney do to prevent the kids from having to go through this? What can the attorney do to keep the kids out of that house until the court date? How can I get our lawyer to do anything on this? It's getting tough even though he is paid? Thanks for the help.