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Hola Barn,

I didn't know you were having trouble locating him. If you still need help, send me an email. A verified addy and current employer should be available. That's the least I can do for all of you who have helped me through my ordeal.

Remind me to spank you later for not asking.

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http://www.co.travis.tx.us/county%5Fclerk/

The contact numbers are listed there for criminal and civil matters.

Situations like this are difficult for most of us to understand, as we fight to stay involved in our children's lives. If you have not already tried zabasearch.com to locate and contact the father, PLEASE do. The father has a right to know what you are considering.

If the issues standing in the way of his parenting are due to conflicts between the parents, he needs to know there are other options available.

If your daughter turns 18 and tracks down the father to ask why he abandoned her, his story may be different than yours. She might blame you for not doing everything in your power to allow them contact. The step you are considering is the saddest and most extreme measure a parent should ever consider. The father may grow up/change his mind in time. Consider your daughter's thoughts and feelings before taking this final step. The wrong move could haunt all of you for the rest of your lives!

I'm ok...thanks for asking...Miss all of you!

The Department of Health and the hospital where the child was born are other options for that information. Be prepared to submit a copy of the decree and pay a small fee.

The divorce decree should list the child's SS#.

If/when medical/dental/hospital/pharmacy bills arrive...contact their billing department, explain the situation and (see above).

The same drill will apply when the child's school records are requested, sans the small fee.

Request that they keep the decree on file to avoid that step in the future. They are just trying to cover their tails via liability reasons.

Though you shouldn't have to go to these lengths, the process will get easier with time. You are definitely NOT alone!

MrR

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Try //www.publicdata.com for info on prior criminal convictions... Idocket.com lists civil cases...DrivingRecord.net lists traffic citations in many states.

Keep in mind that convictions fall under public record, while arrests do not. A (N.C.I.C. National Crime Information Center/FBI) check would reveal those, however your judge would have to agree upon your attorny's request.

Hey Davy,

If my aging memory serves me, you were the one who shared the info on having a Judge recused. If so, I owe you a huge Thank You!

Davy is the man with the answers for this question. It's not easy to do, but it can be done. His info helped me pull it off. You might try contacting him through this site, via email.

Doing good...thanks for asking.

The SAM couch and remote are being carefully guarded, and in constant use.

Perhaps TAP has a handle on the other item you mentioned?

Any change to your custody/visitation rights should have been served to you. We serve people every day in jail, so I doubt there is any truth to her statement.

It is not up to your ex to determine the changes you noted...loss of custodial rights/visitation or increase in child support. She can request all of these, but they MUST be approved by a judge.

Please post your specific questions on SOCS board. He may be willing to guide you through the process of filing the EO, preventing a move away pro-se.