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She called today, and again started reminiscing about old times...I reminded her that the "old times" included her being unfaithfull and leaving me, but I made sure to thank her.  Saying, "It actually was a blessing in disguise. You gave me a wonderfull present, now our daughter can see her father loved the way a husband should be loved."

I stuck some sort of bad note with that one, because she hung up on me. Whoops. hehe.

She called today, and again started reminiscing about old times...I reminded her that the "old times" included her being unfaithfull and leaving me, but I made sure to thank her.  Saying, "It actually was a blessing in disguise. You gave me a wonderfull present, now our daughter can see her father loved the way a husband should be loved."

I stuck some sort of bad note with that one, because she hung up on me. Whoops. hehe.

Things with the kids have gotten worse. Now that it is christmas and thansgiving school break, she is making sure that I have to work for my visitation time (During the off schedule, I (being the custodial parent) have the lesser time for vacation).

She is making it hard.  And I am sure it will continue.

My new wife and I are experiencing some problems...mainly with my ex wife. It seems that the age old addage of "she doesnt want you until someone else does" is rearing its ugly head. I am now shocked that a woman who once hated me, wanted me dead and would rather die herself than touch me, can suddenly want me back.

I didn't divorce my wife...she left me about 4 years ago. She absolutely wanted nothing to do with me, but not that I am remarried and recently had a son, she is calling at all hours and hinting that we, "should have given it another chance" - or "for the childrens sake".  Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I really does blow me away.


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Good to hear that you didnt totally get dismissed and ignored.

You know what, that is so sad that your ex is so unwilling to work with you that you had to serve your child with a summons. The most frustrating part is, that when the custodial "unfit" parent starts "getting desperate and grasping at straws", it usually works.

Good luck, and please keep us posted.

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Hey, I was really wondering how the emergency hearing went. Please let us know, as it is really interesting.

I cant see a reason why you wouldnt be given temp custody while your ex recovers from surgery. Especially given the fact that she was going to keep your child out of school to care for her.  What a bum.



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That totally stinks! But I might have some good news for you regarding your current issue of your child staying at the hospital and helping at home.

Depending on the judge who hears your case, you have a good chance to file for an emergency hearing (ex parte). Call for an ex parte, explain your situation as you just did. There is the little known rule of "Right of First Refusal" that you can enact. Basically, what it means is that when your ex is going to be unavailable to care for the child, be it for vacation, work, sickness, date, etc. YOU have the right to be the caretaker during that time.

Most of the time, it has to be an 8 period of time that the parent is unavailable - then you have the right to custody during that time, even over grandparents, new spouses, siblings, babysitters, etc.

Try it out! There is a detailed section about this in Family Law Secret's Fathers Rights eBook (http://www.familylawsecrets.com) - that is how I know the ins and outs about what you should do.  I know about 3 dads who tried this when their ex's had to be at work, and they didnt, and it worked!

Well, another chink in the armor yesterday for my case. The opposing party is now claiming that the evaluator that the COURT selected is was biased, and is now requesting that a court appointed conselor be assigend to our 4 year old, because I am "harming" the child. HAHAHAH!

Trust me, it will. There is no "fooling" the evaluator. I can't stress how important it is to BE YOURSELF - they totally know who is faking it.  When they ask you tough questions about your ex, like how you feel about them - tell the truth.

One thing to that stood out in my eval, was that when we were asked what we thought was the best thing for my daughter - I straight out said "Me. I am the best thing for her. I know that we have a close relationship and she will be comforatable and happy with me." When my ex was asked, she said, "well, there is no real answer to that. She loves us both. Its really hard."

Ok, which answer sounds canned to you? I was honest, she tried to play the nice lady card. ust tell the truth about EVERYTHING. I let the evaluator know that I really didnt like my ex. That I though our child would have a harder time in school and in life if she stayed with her.

Anyways, I could go on forever.

Very true. My ex once used the arguement, "well, you have to work.  So I should have the kids." C'mon, are you kidding me?

It doesnt show that you have more money, if you request and eval and offer to pay, it truely shows that you are taking the steps to find out what is best.

fathers have a very hard time in court. It is VERY tough to make anything happen. Keep pushing and you have a chance.