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Is it possible to payoff the cp in the state of Ohio to have cs ended?  How is it done?  Can you make an offer or does it have to be what will be owed?  DH is in an odd situation and it is likely that cp would take a payoff but we can't afford the full amount.  We are 99% sure that she would take it and not ask for anything more.  We would like to be in a situation where we don't have to deal with her any longer.  

He has a child from another relationship.  The mother of this child is married and has 2 other children.  Now, he is married and has 3 kids with his new wife.  How will cs be worked out when she leaves?

We have one child living with us and she has the other.  Can anyone tell me how they figured the amount for cs in your case or someone you might know?

How does the court determine the amount of child support to be paid?
Child support is calculated based on the incomes of the two parties. You can refer to the table below to find the amount to be allocated for your child(ren) each year. Briefly, the first step is to figure out the percentage of income earned per year by the parent who will be paying support; then apply that percentage to the amount of support. For example, if the two parents have equal incomes of $15,000 per year, for a joint annual income of $30,000 and they have one child, the annual support is $5,377.00. The parent paying child support would pay fifty percent of the annual support, since s/he earned fifty percent of the income. Fifty percent of $5,377.00 is $2,688.50. A regular amount of child support is then deducted each payday from the payor's paycheck. In this example, if the payor is paid once each month, one-twelfth of $2,688.50 would be withheld from his or her paycheck, i.e. $224.05. These guidelines are an important starting point, but courts frequently deviate from them, depending on the circumstances of the parties.

A 14 yr. old doesn't have the right to do whatever they want.  The law is the law and unless she has a very good reason, I can't see a judge changing it.   Keep us posted on what happens.

There are so many ways to look at all of this and not many feel as if they come out smelling like a rose.  DH's ex has had many jobs, many husbands, many live ins, many step kids...We didn't have to pay her less money if she moved in with someone that already had an extra bedroom, older step children and built in baby sitters.  No, we just keep on paying for her drugs and alcohol and the kids never had extra.  Well they probably had snacks a plenty but not much food on the table.  So no wonder we all feel as if we're getting the wrong end of the stick...we are!

DH ex lived with her mother paying nothing (which she could have) for years.  He was paying a lot of money for the ex and she didn't buy anything for the kids.  They came for the summer with clothes that were too big, clothes that were too small and we had to always buy new ones which we did send home with them after the summer.  I understand where those that say the cs isn't spent on them but there are cp's that don't spend money on the kids.  The kids never got to go out to eat, never any after school activities the one didn't even have his own bed, he always (for years) slept on the couch so dear ole mom could drink and do drugs.  I really do understand both sides, our side of the story is wrong.  I think there are many wondeful cp's that really take care of their kids, I've seen it.  There are many that don't.  It's just a free ride.  

DH ex has never taken him back but he makes more money than he used to.  I was wondering when the oldest one drops off will they look into it then.  We are hoping not.  If she does receive help from the state we wouldn't know, she lives out of state which you would think that would be in our favor.  Do you know if out of state helps any?

From someone whose spouse pays CS, it doesn't matter to me what the money is spent on but it would be nice to know that the money is spent for the child.  I don't think it should be for rent, the CP has to have a place to live anyway.  I don't think it should be for electricity or water either.  I don't expect my kids to pay for elec., water or give me money for rent.  I think food and clothes and extra things that the child is involved in.  Lessons of some sort.  If the child wants to go to a movie or a gift for a birthday party then it would come out of the CS.  jmho

DH's ex has never taken him back for more money, does the CS office ever ask for a modification or does that have to come from either parent?  Also, what happens when one child has reached the age of majority, will someone have to make a mention of that or does the CS take care of that?