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So, hypothetically (sorry, I know you hate those).....and it probably doesn't affect the original poster, but now I'm curious...

If there's an order that says anyone can pick up for visitation, and BMs mom says she's coming to pick up on BMs behalf, and will be keeping the child during BMs time, guaranteeing that BM will NOT be anywhere near the child, but that she (grandmom) has been designated by BM to pick up and to care for the child on time....

...would it still be OK to not give the child to BMs MOM?  

Momto2

Just to clarify.... you say BM's MOM called and "she" has the paperwork and will be there to pick up.  Meaning BM will be picking up (which I believe violates the TRO), or do you mean BM's MOM is planning to do the pick up?  (which wouldn't necessarily violate the TRO, but on the otherhand do you need to turn the child over to someone other than mom?).  I'm just wondering if she's getting around the TRO problem by having someone ELSE pick up the child?

Momto2

Not legal advice, just SM advice....
If the problem is that he's messing with your accounting by "sitting" on the cheques, would it be easier to pay your branch the $0.50 (or whatever their fee is), and get a draft made?  That way the money clears your account same day, and he can sit on it as long as he wants, you won't be affected?

(Either that or find out his account number and transfer funds directly into his account in the exact amount and date of the order?).  Not necessarily setting up an automatic transfer, just transferring each time?

Soc will know if either of these could backfire from a traceability point of view, I'm just looking at it from a "get him out of my accounting" point of view.

Momto2