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I am sorry if I sound like a person who only cares about money.  If my sons apply for monetary assistance from the government, would he put the custodial parent's income or the non-custodial parent or both or the custodial income with the child support amount.

I ask this because I am trying to give myself some justification for the enourmous child support.

It seems unfair that the custodial parent gets the child support money and the non-custodial parent has to pay the tax.

That is part of the issue.  I am fine with having the child try it for one year and if he wants to go back, that is fine with me.  My contention is that my son is mature to make his own decision.  His mother disagrees.

She and I get along when it comes to issues regarding for the benefit of the kids.  She does not want the child to live with me.  At this point, only hearsay as to why she objects to the child living with me.  The child does not want to live with his mother because he feels stressful and have always dealt better with me when I lived in Boston (not with the mother though) a year ago.  I moved to San Diego a year ago because it was better for me.  The child and I spoke about the move and has from day one wanted to live with me.  I told him to speak with his mother and convince her.  I did not do anything with the court then because he was younger then and I wanted to give him a chance to convince her.  I did not want to get the court involved since I thought it would be best if he could convice her so.  He has told a therapist that he wants to live with me.  But the therapist feels that he is not mature to make the decision.  I have told my son that this cannot be a flip/flop decision and it must be made with sound mind and judgement.  

My 13 (soon to be 14 on 9/22) son in Boston wants to live with me in San Diego.  He has pleaded that I go to court and ask for custody.  Please advise me what I need to do.  Thank you in advance for your time.