Hello all,
I just came across this site and thank you for any advice that you can give to me or articles that I should research. Basically I will explain this as short as possible. About 3 months ago, my wife said she is no longer in love with me. We have been married for almost 6 years and have a beautiful 2 year old. Before she told me this, I thought my life was perfect and I felt as if I was very blessed. Our family was the type that everyone would look at and think they are so good for each other. My career has allowed my wife to stay at home which is where she wanted to be. We only had very minor disagreements but these are things I thought these were things all couples go through.
Since then, she has become extremely cold. Last month she moved out of the house (without a job) to an apartment and convinced me to pay for her first month's rent until she finds a job. She has finally found one but it does not start until Aug 1st so she has asked me to pay for one more month. We agreed that I will keep our daughter with me in our home except for every other weekend.
I am still very in love with my wife and wedding vows mean a great deal to me. I want to work things out but don't want to lose my daughter in this process. I have not seen any sign of another man in her life or drugs so I have no idea why she is doing this. I suggested a mental illness to her but that did not go over well. (I am an IT Director at a mental health agency so I see many of the symptoms in her that I see every day in the office)
I don't know where to start. Do I get an attorney now? If so, do I do consultations with several before choosing? (The few I looked into charge about $300 an hour so I have been hesitant for emotional reasons as well as financial) Any help would greatly be appreciated. I have a great support group of friends and they all have their opinions but I don't want to do anything that can result in me losing everying. (Most importantly, my daughter and retirement that I have built up for my family..I am 35 and wanted to retire around the age of 53-55)
I just came across this site and thank you for any advice that you can give to me or articles that I should research. Basically I will explain this as short as possible. About 3 months ago, my wife said she is no longer in love with me. We have been married for almost 6 years and have a beautiful 2 year old. Before she told me this, I thought my life was perfect and I felt as if I was very blessed. Our family was the type that everyone would look at and think they are so good for each other. My career has allowed my wife to stay at home which is where she wanted to be. We only had very minor disagreements but these are things I thought these were things all couples go through.
Since then, she has become extremely cold. Last month she moved out of the house (without a job) to an apartment and convinced me to pay for her first month's rent until she finds a job. She has finally found one but it does not start until Aug 1st so she has asked me to pay for one more month. We agreed that I will keep our daughter with me in our home except for every other weekend.
I am still very in love with my wife and wedding vows mean a great deal to me. I want to work things out but don't want to lose my daughter in this process. I have not seen any sign of another man in her life or drugs so I have no idea why she is doing this. I suggested a mental illness to her but that did not go over well. (I am an IT Director at a mental health agency so I see many of the symptoms in her that I see every day in the office)
I don't know where to start. Do I get an attorney now? If so, do I do consultations with several before choosing? (The few I looked into charge about $300 an hour so I have been hesitant for emotional reasons as well as financial) Any help would greatly be appreciated. I have a great support group of friends and they all have their opinions but I don't want to do anything that can result in me losing everying. (Most importantly, my daughter and retirement that I have built up for my family..I am 35 and wanted to retire around the age of 53-55)