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my dh's ex is supposed to pay $116 a month.  If she were to get custody (my dh is the custodial parent) he would have to pay around $1000.  It's crazy.  Also, his ex is $20,000 in arrears and if she were to get custody, his current support would not be allowed to go toward paying off those arrears, because the child cannot be "deprived" of support, even though that support is almost 10 times what she is supposed to pay.  Luckily for us, we've survived several custody attempts on her part, but all her custody grabs were centered on the support.

my ss was 13, and he had lived with us in California since he was three.  His mother moved to Texas when he was 7, and when he was 13 CSE caught up with her.  She called social services to make an abuse allegation and then took us to court for custody.  The lawyer here said that it would all depend on who ss wanted to live with, and that was the way it went.  He wanted to stay with us, and told the evaluator so.  She recommended that everything stay the same and the judge kind of automatically went along with her.  Our lawyer told my dh that he could get visitation reduced based on the false allegations and some very nasty remarks that his ex made to their son, but my husband choose not to do that.  I do believe that if you persue it and your son says he wants to live with you, that's what will happen.

Happy Father's Day!