This is my sons weekend to go to his dad's. I got a call last night from Dale that he wanted to come home, my ex gets on the phone and says come get him. Fine. So we get there and I have Chris go up because I dont want any confrontation with my ex. Chris said the things he was saying to Dale were horrible. He told Dale "your f*cked up, you need therapy, if you leave I don't want to see you for a year and I'm selling all your toys." So my son, my husband and my ex come down to the car and DH is carrying a bunch of Dales toys and Dale is crying his eyes out. My ex tells me in front of Dale that if he leaves I dont want him to come back ever. He will get a lawyer and sign him away and I can have full custody. My ex tells Dale he better make a decision right now cause if he leaves he isnt ever coming back.So Chris takes Dale to a place where they can talk and DH tells him, this is not your fault. Daddy had a bad week and is not being very responsible right now. Chris urged him to give it a try. Dale agreed. I told my ex this is not how you talk to an 8yo, and he tells me how he has to learn. I told him hes 8 not 18. DH took my ex and told him to get a grip. Dale is just a little boy. and we left.
Should I have just taken Dale ? Thats what I wanted to do. I feel as if I should have removed him from the situation. Dale does go to therapy but he doesnt know that we just refer to it as the talking dr. So I was going to call her tomorrow and get him in there and also to find out what she recommends. Then I am thinking of seeing an attorney and going for sole custody with no visitation. But I am afraid of what would happen to Dale if I remove him from visiting his father. My ex's dad was the same way and now he is and I am afraid Dale will be if I dont break the cycle.
Should I have just taken Dale ? Thats what I wanted to do. I feel as if I should have removed him from the situation. Dale does go to therapy but he doesnt know that we just refer to it as the talking dr. So I was going to call her tomorrow and get him in there and also to find out what she recommends. Then I am thinking of seeing an attorney and going for sole custody with no visitation. But I am afraid of what would happen to Dale if I remove him from visiting his father. My ex's dad was the same way and now he is and I am afraid Dale will be if I dont break the cycle.