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My child support is and has always been garnished from my paycheck. I am with a new payroll company and they are charging me a fee because my child support is garnished. I have never heard of such a thing and I have been paying child support for 12yrs. Is this Legal?

I just wanted to clear up certain things that you stated::

FIRST I did not voluntarily leave my job so that I could pay less child support. I lost my job and I needed to work to support my family. I took the job that was available at the time. I have always taken care of my daughter.  I have always tried to give her the best and I have. Aside from the child support that her mother recieves I also help out when she needs something. Her mother wants more money out of spite. Its not because she needs it or because I don't help her.  She is just an angry, vindictive, unhappy woman that doesn't want anyone else to be happy.

SECOND. Are you saying that because I pay child support for my daughter I am not entitled to have more kids? Who do you know puts their kids on a budget!!!. Neither one of my two boys were planned pregnancies, but they were gifts from God that we were not going to turn away. I did not ask for my child support to be lowered. Even though I have been making less money then when the initial child support order was established, I was still paying the amount that was ordered with no complaints. Aside from helping her when she needed something. However I will not stand by and let her try to ruin my life and my families life for her own pleasure.

THIRD I do know for a fact that my daughter acts differently when she's around her mother. This was established by a law guardian appointed by the court for my daughter. The judge told her that she had to stop doing that or she would be in contempt. I am the good guy here who is just trying to do right by his daughter and be a part of her life. Not just on a part  time basis, but on a full time basis. I want her to know that I will always be there for her. There are so many men out there that don't give a damn about their kids. I on the other hand have been fighting tooth and nail to be a part of her life. The only reason I havent sued for full custody is because I don't want to hurt my daughter anymore that she has been hurt.  A legal battle would get ugly (because of her mom) and I don't want to do that to her. All I ask is to be part of her life with no bullshit from her mother.

We were never married.  I had to go and petition for visitation rights for my daughter. I like the idea of getting two webcams, I just have to convince my ex to get a computer. Thanx for the advice.

I am currently going through a situation that I need help with. I have a 12yr old daughter that lives in NYC with her mother. I reside in the state of Florida with my wife and my 2 other children ages 7 & 3. From the very beginning I have had trouble with my ex. She is a very angry, vindictive person that has never gotten over the fact that we didn't work out. She uses my daughter as a pawn to hurt me. I have always paid child support for my daughter and to avoid further difficulties it was being garnished biweekly from my wages. In May of this year I lsit my job and was not able to make my child support payments. I had informed my ex of this and she said that we could work something out. She is now suing for modification of the child support order because she wants more money. I don't make the same amount of money as I did in NY. ( I am originally from NY and relocated to Florida 3yrs ago). I make less now then I did when the original child support order was established and I have two more children to support. She makes tons more than I do. She is just asking for more money to get to me. She doesn't let me see my daughter and makes it very difficult for me to have a relationship with my daughter. The few times that I have had the chance to spend time with my daughter I know that she loves me and wants to spend time with me and her brothers. When her mother is not around and I talk to her she is a totally different person and her personality comes out. My ex doesnt see that she is hurting our daughter the most in all of this. I want joint legal custody because I want to be a part of my daughters life. I don't have the money to hire a lawyer or fly to NY and I don't know what to do. Can anyone give me advise as to what I can do and where I can go for help. I have always tried my best to provide the best for all of my children. I have always tried to be a part of my daughters life and be there for her, but her mother won't let me. Please help me before its too late.