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on the timing issue ,what would your advice be.Should I settle the child support issue First ,Then go for the custody. I will get my lawyers advice on that when I meet her Tomorrow.The main reason I'm going for the custody at this time is becuase my son is 100% sure he wants to make the change.I have always told he would have to be 100% sure and be able to deal with the consequences of His mothers wrath once she found out in order for me to even to  try getting custody.

I am hoping that this forum will provide me with valuable info in my quest to get custody of my 11 year old son, 9 years ago my ex decided that she not interested in being married or the idea of counseling to try to save the marraige.At that time when I was kicked to the curb with only 10k a truck payment ,no place to live and A child support payment,I figured he was in a much better off living with her at the time .I have called him every night for 9 years  and driven to every one of his events over this course of time.I think Ive missed 2 baseball games in 4 years,I live 60 miles from my son.I started My own business and  willingly, without court Order have been paying my Ex an extra 145.00 per month for child support,Because I did the numbers on the state Calculator and decided it was the right thing to do.My relationship with her is only good when I give her every dime that she asks for,which I've only said no to her Once in 8 years.( she said My son needed a 1000.00 bed when he was 8,)She and Her mother Constantly Bad mouth me in front of my son,and use threats or yell at him to get their way.He has expressed His desire to come live with me,and Since she is taking me to court to get more Child support ,I thought this was the time to go for Custody.  I welcome any and all suggsetions.There is more to this nightmare story ,But I thought this was a good start