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Iowa is the state

Since ex has petitioned the court to make visitations even
less, can I counterpetition the court asking for more
visitation based soly on the documented denials of
visitation?

Would that be considered enough for a substanial change of
circumstances?

Thanks.

Iowa is the state

Since ex has petitioned the court to make visitations even less, can I counterpetition the court asking for more visitation based soly on the documented denials of visitation?

Would that be considered enough for a substanial change of circumstances?

Thanks.

So that my ex if she goes snooping around these sites, will not think its me posting things.

I am in Iowa by the way

The child is 9.

I was given supervised because ex called in DHS, said my brother sexually abused the child, DHS found it untrue and ex was suppose to dismiss her petition to suspend visitation, which she did not, went to court and recieved default judgement, which gave me supervised visitation.

No criminal record

I tried in 2004 to take her to court pro se, but was not ready, and did not get the order changed.  so basically order has been in effect since 2003.

State is Iowa

I am NCP, ex is CP.  She has filed a petition to modify my already small amount of visitation time, to once every 3 months supervised.

I do have the needed proof to show her allegations false.  She obviously does not know that as she filed this frivolous petition.  I have dated pictures and reciepts from a store in the town where visitation occurs with date and time printed on them.

I have answered and denied all relevant statements.

I could just motion the court and ask for modification for increased visitation, but again the child is going to be affected by all of this

Trial date has not been set.

I would like to offer up settlement, but not sure how to do it.  I do not have an attorney and cannot afford to retain one.

Any suggestions on how to offer up settlement?  


I would like to ask for visitation time increases.

Any help greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

Thank you for your reply. :)

Ok,  I guess I need to know if it is possible to ask the courts to grant his mediation or settlement conference.

Sorry, but the message and replies kinda went astray, no offense meant.

I realize that even after doing this, she may still be influenced by her mil, but would it not show the courts that my husband does not want to put his and her child through a court battle over bogus stuff, and that even if she goes back on the agreed stuff through this, that she in fact is the one that would not be able to cooperate for the child?

Kind of a good faith measure for my husband?

Thanks,  Melissa, wife of man going through this

Sorry need to clarify.  It is my husband that is having this problem with his ex wife, not I.  

I think if the 2 of them set in a room whether my husband has an attorney or not by that time, trying to find one despreatly, that between him and her with no outside influence, and what he has in proof, they will have no ground to stand on.  And she will have to either drop it or they will have to work it out with out her mil influence.

Does that sound logical?

Thanks,  Melissa wife of husband having this trouble

State:  Iowa



I was served a petition to modify the already crappy visitation I have to even less, but am suspecting that the ex's mother-in-law is really behind all this, as my ex has dropped hints about being between a rock and a hard place, and other tidbits.

I will file my answer denying all the stuff, but want to know if I can ask the court to grant mediation before setting a trial date, or a settlement conference so that her and I and her attorney since, I have yet to retain one, financial reasons?

Is that possible, and if so, how might I word such a document?

Thank you,

Melissa

Its my husband and he is the non cusdotial paent, and it has been in effect since 2002.

Thanks, wife of the man battling this