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from what I understand after say age 12 a judge "may" take into consideration what a child wants, but it is rare. The family court does not like to put kids in the middle and lets be honest kids dont always know what they want. Dont let her bully you and call her bluff...the judge wont give a child to a irresponsible parent, even if the kid wants to live there.

there is no way in hell that i would allow my child to spend one minute of one hour in a home with a parent that abused drugs. If it is in your power take her to court and get full custody. I myself would suggest getting a private investigator to put her under surveilance and get some photos of her smoking the leafy green or God knows what else she is doing...document everything and by all means do not let your kid go on the concert trip. The mom needs to get clean for herself and your child. Err on the side of caution my friend.

I just went through the same thing, except the ex tried to have all my visitation taken away. I dont understand what some women think and I really loathe the family courts. How do they expect a dad to build a relationship on 4 days a month and shared holidays. I would offer mediation to her, save on court costs and such. My ex spent over 20,000 trying to keep me from my son. I thank the Lord she lost. Good luck and keep fighting for your rights.

I dont see how that would affect child custody....they want the child to have stability and be safe...I would not worry about it.

I need advice from anyone who has been down this road...I had full custody of my daughter when she was 4 but allowed her to stay with her mom....big mistake...anyway fast forward 6 years later. My ex allowed her mother and father to do some lewd act in front of my child at a birthday party, it happened and the school counselor agreed that it happened. I took my child away from the mom and she took me to court for custody. we had to do the family evaluation and the counselor said my daughter felt more comfortable with her mom, so I ended up with every other weekend. My issue is while my daughter was living with mom her grades have always been D or F marks, with the occasional C. I have always battled her on this. She does not put our childs education first. She has missed on average since 1st grade 25 days of school. She is now in the 6th grade. My daughter loves it at moms house because there are no rules, she runs the show. No accountability for homework or anything. mom does not even ask. We addressed this in our last modification, she had to have medical docs for all school days missed. she has been at a new school for 2 months and has missed 12 days, averaging 2 days a week. Her mom picks her up early and once picked her up early so she could see her dog. I told her this had to stop and i was taking her back to court. She has F marks for the year. I met with her teachers last week and found out mom has not even called or met with the teachers to voice any concern. Has anyone been down this road that has some sound advice for me? My daughter mom tells her that i am a sperm donor and is trying PAS..she denies my phone calls to my child and lies to her about me..any advice would be great.