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Does anyone know if this bill has been passed yet?Or any new info on it..thanks

Does anyone know if this bill has been passed yet or where it stands now..its the bill in pa where they give joint custody..thanks

Thank u to each and every one of u that responded.yeah i know its a tricky sitaution and where i am concerned to the person about the medical..i have tried to get him on my medical.Her and Dr will not give me his ss# to get him on it.I have taken every attempt to help out..they are just seeing dollars signs not a person.Anyway..I can understand that she does not work..but she can also be getting assitance from the government.Im not saying i would help her out.My child support is paid in full..comes out of my check..im not a deadbeat dad.I provide past my means right now..trust me.And once again no one has legal custody.Im in pursuit of that now.It wil cost a lot for a lawyer but i dont care.I just dont understand how my life suffers and i dont even get to see my child.i just got married last year..me and my wife are trying to have kids and start a family.I have been providing for my family at home and for my son in another state...If drs takes all my money to give to her because she isnt trying to provide for him..then i cant even make a new family..in turn ..she has a 2 yr old at home with her new husband..and doesnt even work.I understand that she doesnt have to work.But she can further her family..not support any of them.i have no idea how they are living.Noone in the house works.Drs doesnt ask her how she pays her rent of how the child is taken care of.Im sorry but for sitautions like thee because she is not working..she can be getting government help..thats not taking away from another household in retuen..I dont understand why my life should be put on hold and in return im paying for her..her husband ..her other child and mine.I have no problem paying for my child.i would have no problem bringing him here to live with me.Every woman i know..tells there kids who there father is unless certaiin circumstances.Even if they are not in their life.And yes i should have pursued this a while ago and did try.I was always working ..and couldnt afford a lawyer..and yes they are based off income..u will not get a pro bono  lawyer unless u are not making money or if u are not making decent money.Not only that but i have relocated with a job in a higher cost fo living area...for a job..not for my own reasons..to provide for my family...to pay my support..i always have been workign and paying my support..but they base it off pa child support calcualtor instead of here because she lives there..is there anyway to get my case switched here..so they would base it off my cost of living..And how do u find out how her family is getting supported...they pay 700 dollars a month..my support order is only for 580 a month..how do they come up with rest..if it is not guaranteed..and if neither or working...im seriously concerned because she keeps saying she cannot afford things for him..in pa a 3 bedrooom house goes for usually about 550 a month..she is paying 700 plus utilities..how can i get proof of if she is paying it or how..once again just to recap...i am paying my support and have no problem with it..but she is not a single mother...she is married with another child....that was her chose..and they both sit back not work..and possibly not provide for either child..children and youth wont do anything either..how do i know there isnt illegal activity going on and thats how they get money to pay their bills..i mean come on..how can u raise a family of 4 ...without working but yet u dont even apply for medical or food stamps or any of that...if u have it so u dont need to ..then what can possibly be going on in that house and where is the rest of the income coming from..that im not paying ..where does the utilities come from and the remainder of the rent...or food..or clothing..any of it..u would think drs or children services would be interested at least...and yes some ppl may get offended by this and i would hope not..im not telling ppl to go on welfare and not get support..what im saying it..how does someone live outside of their means..have another child in the process..and im the one paying for all that and in return wont be able to afford a family of my own..how is that fair..and cant even see my son..i have never been arrrrested for anything..never..im not an abusive person..im stating all facts here..

Thanks for the help..ill be calling new lawyers tomorrow..i have read on parental alienation syndrome and for some reason it isnt very successful in pa..but it is a good thought..i think just alone with them doing psyc evals will help too..because apparently the mother has told me that he is an emotional child..and nce they ask him about his father ..it will bad on her side...this whole sitaution throws me through a loop..i still cannot understand how i have been mislead for so long and how every person i have talked to about this has told me they dont understand how she gets away with it...she walked into domestic relations the other day n our court hearing(i was teleconferencing bc of living out of state)and told me on the phone right in front of the case worker that she still hasnt told him im his father and that she isnt goint o..and is going to take me for full custody...the case worker didnt say anything but based my child support off my income and uped to 300 dollars a month..even with her being responsible for medical and having contempt charges on her right now from the for not providing our son with medical insurance apparenlty for the past 3 years or so...i swear the whole area she lives in  just looks at me like a paycheck..she straight out said to them she isnt working neither is her husband..and she cannot afford stuff for the child..so instead of them pulling our son out of the house being that she isnt providing..they just want me to pay the money to her so she can use it whereever..because obviously it aint going towards his medical...because she has no insurance and sent me those bills?this totally boggles my mind

noone has legal custody.She has physical custody because a custody has never been established in a court.So should i file for visitation then?or partial custody? a lawyer said my chances of getting joint or partial are really slim being that he doesnt know me because she has him beleiving that her husband is daddy.

Well i already know he is mine.WE had parentity done when he was born so they have been taking me for child support.Also no one has custody she never went for it and neither did  i.Ive talked to a bunch of lawyers in pa and they all pretty much told me the same.plus i didnt have the money at that time.Its like 300 dollars to file for cusody in pa then lawyers fees on top of it.Thanks

Here's my situation.Its lengthy.My child is now 7.Me and the mother have been split since the child was 1.She kept switching phone numbers and moving in the past few years and i have not been able to find them.Recently i did.She let me see my son but told him i was a friend instead of his father.Apparently she remarried and told our son that his father is her husband.Anyway i went along with her telling him that so i could see him.I have been paying my child support on time the past few years.I dont owe anything.I recently moed from pa to florida and since then she still wont tell him nore put him on the phone.I have called at least 4 times a month and asked her to speak with him.She declines saying that she doesnt want to tell him i am his father because he thinks that her new husband is.Froom out of state its kinda hard to go to her house right now.Anyway ive asked her to send me copies of his report cards..she wont.I dont have his ss # to gain access to medical records.Then recently she sent me medical bills over $1000.00.There was two of them.I asked her what they were for and she told from a sledding accident in 2005.The bills are both from july 4th 2005.So first im wondering why doesnt he have insurance on him?Then im wondering how could a child get into a sledding accident in july in pa.Thats impossible.So i asked her if he has insurance..she said yes.But it turns out she doesnt have any kind of insurance on him and her and her husband are not working.My insurance does not go out of state.So now we are going thru domestci relations to find out what is going on.Well in the process she takes me for more money.In the hearing says loudly that she still hasnt told my son who i am and isnt going to.Then tells me and them she doesnt have insurance on him.They are now taking her for contempt for not carrying insurance because she is 100 percent liable according to our court order.Her and her husband have not been working for awhile.They also have another child of theirs living in the house with them.I have no idea how these ppl live besides the support i pay for my son.Domestic relations appreanly doesnt see a problem.they just keep taking me for more and more money.I still dont know why my son was in the hospital and why she is hidiing it.Her husband has an abusibe background which scares me.And now apparenlty she is taking me for full custody.So all this time nooone has custody.I haev talked to lawyers and they have told me because my son thinks her husband is his father the only thing i would get is SUPERVISED VISITATION and phone contact maybe once a month.Still in the process she wont tell me anything about my son.Ihave no idea how he is or what school he is going to..why he was in the hospital.If he has medical needs.Anything.So basically DR has no problem having me pay for her family and my son while i told them i cant afford it because i just moved into a higher cost of living area.I am married and have a disabled step son living with me now.And i have been supporting my family is all aspect(my son who doesnt even know me and my family at home).but they now raised it to 600 dollars a month..which is 300 more then i was already paying ..i cant afford it and they dont care.So now i will be forced to probbaly move out of state again to afford my rent.I moved to fl because my job relocated me and im making more money..but in the same hand my rent doubled and so did my expenses.Can anyone help on this situation with rights and how i can get my son to know me..and how this is even legal.Thanks:(