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Just moved there in June.  DD has been with us since June.  So the fact that BM commited a sex crime that is still punishible by law isn't enough.  I am appauled at this.  I knew the boy was younger but was unaware of how much younger. I feel as DD has been manipulated to stay with mom as she ic consistenly waffling back and forth.  I feel she doesn't know what she wants either.

The current order in is WA State, BM is now living in AZ and we live in NY.  BM won't agree to anything, DD is her built in babysitter for 4 yo sister.  DD will says she wants to stay here then she talks to BM and changes her mind.  DD states she worries about BM.  States BM says she will "die" without her.  My poor DD is the adult and BM is the teen, along with the young boyfriend.  I feel she is missing out on so much.

I have a 15 yo daughter who lives with her mother during the school year and is with me and her SM and 1/2 siblings during the summer.  The mom has a variety of mental health issues that have just been recently diagnosed but we part of our reasons for splitting.  She has recently moved from the place my DD has lived her whole life to Pheonix to live with her mother.  She has no formal job training and will only be looking at minimum wage.  My DD will have to share a room with 4 yo 1/2 sis from mom and I just recently found out moms boyfriend is only 5 years older than DD and 14 years younger the my ex.  She has been with this kid since he was 15/16 years old.  I know that alone is illeal.  She was 30 when relationship statred.  I am very concerned with this.  There is no custody and never has been.  We have been fairly able to communicate somewhat regarding DD.  I feel I need to do more now.  I feel they are grave concerns regarding moms decision making skills as well as the recent enlightment to this major move which she never told me about.  I found out through DD.  This live in boyfriend is also a major concern for me as he is not old enough to play dad to my soon to be 16 year old DD in my absence.  I am questioning returning her to her mothers fulltime care.  I worry for her safety.  Also we live in NY and provide all of her routine medical care.  Our summer visitation is filled wqth appts,  physicals, dentist, eye doctors etc.  Her mother seeks no medical care when she is with her even if DD is sick. I have also paid for all travel expenses for visitation and continued to send full child support while with us.   She will also be attending a HS from 350 total enrolled students to a HS of over 3000 kids.  I am wondering if I am overreacting.  Should I just leave well enough alone.  SHould I pursue further actions? Any recommendations or advice would be greatly appreciated.