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Thank you guys for the advice, its really nice to have someone to talk to (sort of).  There are a couple of new developements though if you have another minute.
Basically, I brought up the idea to her of talking to a lawyer and getting things more official - coming up with a schedule, signing acknowledgement of paternaty papers, etc. and she basically flipped out.  She started screaming at me, saying that if i took her to court she would "make my life a living hell!"  She said that she would do everything to fight me, that she would badmouth me to my daughter every chance she got, and that she would do everything in her power to basically wreck my life.  She has started dating a guy now that basically forbids her from even being cordial to me, and she thinks that he is right.  
I want more than anything to have a lifelong, meaningful relationship with my little girl, but I am more worried about her life, and how my actions will affect her.  I guess i am pretty scared.  I still think i am going to have to take her to court since she is not allowing me to see my daughter, (and she has stated that my family is not welcome to see her because she doesnt owe them anything, she says), but I hope there is some way to either use her threats to help me, or at least feel like there is any way i can avoid them coming true.
Sorry for babbling, but the last replies helped me out alot, if only emotionally, so hopefully i can get some more help.
Thanks guys.

I am new to this whole thing, and this is the first website of this kind that i have visited, but I have gotten myself into a situation and I was hoping that there was someone out there who could offer me some advice.

I am a 25 yr. old male, unmarried, and recently had my first child.  It was with a girlfriend, and we broke up during the pregnancy.  Throughout the pregnancy her emotions were out of control, one day she would despise the sight of me, the next we were like best friends.  We talked all along about the fact that once the baby was born we were going to keep the legal system out of it and just work it out between the two of us.  We set a price that I would pay each month and agreed that visitation would be whenever we both have time.  It seemed like a fine solution, except now that my daughter is here I almost never see her.  I have always wanted kids, and I was so excited to be a father.  I have a really good job in sales, which also allows my schedule to be VERY flexible, so basically i tell her each week to tell me what time works for her and I can work around it.  That worked for about 3 weeks, allowing me to see my baby girl once a week, but now I havent seen her in 3 weeks, and I dont have any good idea when the next time I will see her is.  We cant get along at all on the phone any more, and she calls me a baby when i tell her how much i miss my daughter, and she constantly threatens me with how bad I would have it if we got the courts involved.  I guess my real question is, Is she bluffing?  I cant imagine the courts would never allow me to see my baby.  I am a perfectly capable father, I love kids (i used to work at an elementary school) and I am asking for absolutely NOTHING, except just to spend some time with my baby girl once in a while.
I live in Pennsylvania, and maybe i just need to talk to a lawyer, but i thought someone on here might be able to offer me some advice.
What are my rights?  Am i better off leaving the courts out of it?
Thanks a lot if anyone has time to help.