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She continually text messages the kids on cell phones she purchased them. When we take the cell phones away she convinces them we are trying to keep them from her and my daughter has a fit she cannot talk to boyfriend. Her father recently passed away and left her some cash. This will soon be gone as she took the boyfriend and his children with mine to Disney world prior to asking the kids where they want to live. She then purchased them phones and basically anything they want. We were told by the mediator she should be able to have contact with the kids the last time we had to go meet, however, I am sure this is not what they had in mind. Is it wrong for us to limit her access to the kids during our time? We currently go a week at a time in the summer. When they get in school next week and see their friends it will be better. Right now my daughter thinks her boyfriend is the only friend she has. She has never acted this way before, but has told the boyfriend she will tell the judge whatever she has to to be with him. This is a little alarming. We do not discuss this with the children, however, we have read text messages from their mother wanting to know what we are doing and saying and coaxing them on what to say to us.  

Of course my daughter wants to live near her boyfriend and thinks that changing schools would give her this opportunity. She would be going from a small school where she has always gone to a large city. My son does not want to change schools. This will definitely go to court, but not before school starts next week. She has told them they could start the 2nd semester in their new school.

My understanding is that we have joint legal custody and I have residential, which is similar to physical custody. My wife and I are both Christians and have no issues with drugs or alcohol and there is not abuse within ourhome. I appreciate your information!

I have had residential custody of my children for the past 6 1/2 years. When I remarried 5 years ago, my wife moved from out of state in order for me to continue holding residential custody. The children's mother has always had very liberal visitation. Originally she had them in the evening two nights a week plus everyother weekend. Eventually she started taking them every other day as we lived in the same town. She has had 3 different guys live with her during this time and has now moved out of state with a 4th. She is trying to take full custody of the children so they can live with her and her boyfriend of 6 months. She has always had issues following the visitation schedule and has never had to be flexible on her end. She has constantly harassed my new wife, even going so far as to try and state she has abused the children. We we have been told over and over we need to get along for the sake if the children. We tried to sue for contempt of court when she did not return the children at her scheduled time and was leaving them home alone rather than with the babysitter stated in our agreement. At our court hearing we were again told we need to learn to get along with her. She constantly insists we are mean to her, however, we have email after email contradicting this and have stopped talking to her any other way. She allows my 13 year old daughter to date a boy where she lives and has convinced her they cannot be together if she lives with me(which is probably true). What rights to I have to stop her from taking custody and how difficult will it be for her to move these kids out of state?