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I would tend to agree with PP. If the child is truly being abused, she needs to contact the authorities. They'll do the right thing.

According to the co-parenting class I voluntarily sat in on the other day, overnights are viewed as the sooner the better now in our CA court systems. They would enforce a step-up plan I think. It's best to start off slow.

Also, the judge might snap at you if you continue to refer to the DLO as "baby" he's 2 now. Yes, he's YOUR little baby, but court won't care either way. I have seen plenty of parent's make the foolish mistake of trying to make their child younger by quoting their age in months or even weeks after the age of 2. But, 2 is 2. The court see's this as the perfect time for overnights to begin.

Most NCP's try to see their children for a considerable amount of time BEFORE they resort to going to court. I hope that's not the case, but if it is, I could understand the frustration on both parts.

You can request for a modification of the visitation schedule by filing for an Order to Show cause. The local family law court should have a family law assistance center you can access, most of us aren't rich so fee waivers cover the cost of this wonderfully priceless help.

The judge MIGHT not approve of a step-up plan without you being able to prove the child would be harmed by being with the father. Most courts honestly do not care if the NCP has ALREADY been in contact with the child in visitation.

SS's BM kept demanding to know what DH and I fed SS during visitations so we found ourselves telling BM to feed SS anything other than soy and fast food. She backed off as soon as CPS told her that we don't feed the kids fast food and make our own bread, candy, ice-cream and anything the kids might need.

She tried to tell the judge that our kids were sick all the time and DH told the judge the real story. She's stuck her head in the sand about food ever since.

I didn't try to be supermom, just happened. Cheaper to make my own bread when I am feeding 4 kids.

DH has to deal with a non-compliant CP so I understand that NCP's being insistant on anything is probably a bother. I suggest trying to email him, or send him a letter in the mail. If it gets really bad, you could send him a certified letter. But, I agree with PP, if you're ambushing him during exchanges, it's neither the place nor the time.

You need to go to court and file a declaration stating what you know. You need to file a request to modify the orders. Maybe you can enforce visits be at a nuetral location. A grandparents home avail?

Well you should visit the facilitator and Family Law assistance center at the court with your proposed paperwork before you file anything.

I don't believe moving away from the children is the best idea. You should be close to them. The closer the better, outside of stalking range.

We're looking for the same paperwork though, so I'll keep checking back with this topic should someone find the info postable.

They can order new spouses to do it too? Wow. I didn't know that. My DH just got ordered to go to a two part class. I am only allowed to attend the first part, voluntarily, for a small fee. We decided it was for the better since we have a blended family. Our class is next month.

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Sounds more like the judge might have suspected PAS. The immediate perscription for that is less time with the alienating parent. I don't think it was the case though, did you appeal?