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Father's Issues / Re: Two success stories.....when there's a WILL, there's a way
Mar 10, 2009, 12:57:52 PM #2
Father's Issues / (big sigh) Where to begin? I need help please.
Mar 10, 2009, 12:36:40 PM
Ok, here we go. I don't know how or where to start, so I'll just blurt some things out if that's ok...
I live with the Mother of my two children, our kids are 5 and 3; but we are not married. From here on out, I will refer to the Mother of my children as Satan.
Long Story Short?
Satan loves her children I know. But she is not mentally or physically capable of being a RESPONSIBLE PARENT.
She has been physically abusive towards me in the past, to the point that she was arrested for it. (I finally had to start documenting it)
This is after she fraudulently filed a restraining order against me. (which was later dropped due to her not following up with it) She claimed I was the abusive one and she feared for herself and the kids.
This was a complete joke, since she is the one; and she only did it because she found out I was seeking the help of an Attorney.
She has since been better with her demeanor and has been able to control herself physically, but the amount of VERBAL ABUSE has increased dramatically; and the fact that she does it in front of our children does not sit well with me.
To try and keep this short (which is probably too late), She pays for her half of rent and maybe buys milk every once in awhile; but does not help out with anything else financially. She will not initiate any type of extra curricular activity with the children and is completely unstable.
I honestly believe she has mulitple personalities. I'm not a Doctor, and I don't have a degree; but I know right when it's right and wrong when it's wrong.
First of all, she has a part time job! I've been reduced to taking a Security job since the Mortgage industry isn't what it once was.
Her lack of participation in paying her half of the "daily bills" has been a huge burden. I actually have to borrow money from family because she won't help buy grocieries and help make ends meet. She has lied to the State of Cal. in order to obtain health insurance. Won't help out by brushing the Childrens Teeth unless we argue about it, won't feed them properly. (chopped bologna, celery and carrots one day. Cut up hot dogs and celery and carrots the next day. Yogurt as a meal.) etc... Giving them candy at every corner. bla, bla, bla. She doesn't clean, doesn't cook, won't do laundry. (now when i say this I don't mean NEVER) Every once in awhile she will come home with a Gallon of Milk, or she might sweep the kitchen floor; or maybe have an epipheny and empty the dishwasher. But maybe she participates about 10% of the time.
I filed my 2008 Fed. and State Tax returns as the Head of Household and claimed both kids. This didn't sit well with her, but she doesn't get it. She is always threatening me with Harm from her family. (Mexican) We live close to TJ,where she is from (American citizen now) and hasn't recently started threatening to take the kids and I would never see them again. (this has me disturbed greatly)
Now, I'm sure most Dads will say this but i will say it anyway. I am a great dad. I have some faults, but who doesn't? Honestly? I would rank myself in the top percentile among fathers, and I would and can say it convincingly; with actions of my past to back it up. Plenty of people to support it also.
I could go on and on about her total lack of responsibilities, but I have probably already lost 75% of my readers; so I won't.
I can't "financially" live without her half of the rent. But don't let her "half" fool you. it is only about 1/4 of the total monthly bills. ATLEAST I don't have frivilous expenses, and I don't think our means of living or expenditures are over the top; I think they are normal everyday expenses that will help our children mature socially and physically the right way.
WHAT DO I NEED? I need to have custody of the children and get child support from Satan. We could make it if I got child support. Her Negativity and abusive language is hurting our children.
(ahhhhhhhh sigh)))))) Soo much more.....am I rambling?
So, my question is; can someone point me in the right direction? Honestly, I want to be sneaky about it and then have it sprung on her, because I think if she found out she would bolt for Mexico.
I live with the Mother of my two children, our kids are 5 and 3; but we are not married. From here on out, I will refer to the Mother of my children as Satan.
Long Story Short?
Satan loves her children I know. But she is not mentally or physically capable of being a RESPONSIBLE PARENT.
She has been physically abusive towards me in the past, to the point that she was arrested for it. (I finally had to start documenting it)
This is after she fraudulently filed a restraining order against me. (which was later dropped due to her not following up with it) She claimed I was the abusive one and she feared for herself and the kids.
This was a complete joke, since she is the one; and she only did it because she found out I was seeking the help of an Attorney.
She has since been better with her demeanor and has been able to control herself physically, but the amount of VERBAL ABUSE has increased dramatically; and the fact that she does it in front of our children does not sit well with me.
To try and keep this short (which is probably too late), She pays for her half of rent and maybe buys milk every once in awhile; but does not help out with anything else financially. She will not initiate any type of extra curricular activity with the children and is completely unstable.
I honestly believe she has mulitple personalities. I'm not a Doctor, and I don't have a degree; but I know right when it's right and wrong when it's wrong.
First of all, she has a part time job! I've been reduced to taking a Security job since the Mortgage industry isn't what it once was.
Her lack of participation in paying her half of the "daily bills" has been a huge burden. I actually have to borrow money from family because she won't help buy grocieries and help make ends meet. She has lied to the State of Cal. in order to obtain health insurance. Won't help out by brushing the Childrens Teeth unless we argue about it, won't feed them properly. (chopped bologna, celery and carrots one day. Cut up hot dogs and celery and carrots the next day. Yogurt as a meal.) etc... Giving them candy at every corner. bla, bla, bla. She doesn't clean, doesn't cook, won't do laundry. (now when i say this I don't mean NEVER) Every once in awhile she will come home with a Gallon of Milk, or she might sweep the kitchen floor; or maybe have an epipheny and empty the dishwasher. But maybe she participates about 10% of the time.
I filed my 2008 Fed. and State Tax returns as the Head of Household and claimed both kids. This didn't sit well with her, but she doesn't get it. She is always threatening me with Harm from her family. (Mexican) We live close to TJ,where she is from (American citizen now) and hasn't recently started threatening to take the kids and I would never see them again. (this has me disturbed greatly)
Now, I'm sure most Dads will say this but i will say it anyway. I am a great dad. I have some faults, but who doesn't? Honestly? I would rank myself in the top percentile among fathers, and I would and can say it convincingly; with actions of my past to back it up. Plenty of people to support it also.
I could go on and on about her total lack of responsibilities, but I have probably already lost 75% of my readers; so I won't.
I can't "financially" live without her half of the rent. But don't let her "half" fool you. it is only about 1/4 of the total monthly bills. ATLEAST I don't have frivilous expenses, and I don't think our means of living or expenditures are over the top; I think they are normal everyday expenses that will help our children mature socially and physically the right way.
WHAT DO I NEED? I need to have custody of the children and get child support from Satan. We could make it if I got child support. Her Negativity and abusive language is hurting our children.
(ahhhhhhhh sigh)))))) Soo much more.....am I rambling?
So, my question is; can someone point me in the right direction? Honestly, I want to be sneaky about it and then have it sprung on her, because I think if she found out she would bolt for Mexico.
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