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After reading more posts I wanted to give you some more information.

SS13 has no friends currently.  He goes to a small school that only has a few other boys in the class and they are all a bit backwards.  He is also a bit behind the eight ball because his older brother is this gragarious, outgoing socialite who is fabulous at sports and girls fawn all over him.  SS13 feels like his is constantly in his shadow and he is.  Their mom won't agree to him going to a different school, so he is always "Pat's brother" instead of "Sam".  As soon as we told them we were moving he has not waivered one bit in his desire to go. 

The other contributing factor is that my husband and I have a 4 year old daughter and she and ss13 are really, really attached.  The thought of being away from her and not watching her grow up is very painful to him.  And our daughter would be lost without him.  I know courts don't take additional children into consideration, but this is just to help you understand one of the reasons ss13 really wants to move with us.

Thanks!

My husband is being transfered for his work from Indiana to Arkansas.  We currently have joint physical custody of his two sons from a previous marriage, with us having the boys M and T, their mom having them W and Th, and alternating Fri - Sun.  My 16 year old step son would like to stay in Indy (he will be a sophmore and has a very promising future at Lacrosse) but my 13 year old step son is adiment that he come with us. 

We have attempted to communicate with his mother about this to see if we can come to some kind of agreement but she has ignored all of our communications on our court ordered Sharkids.com website.  Because we have to move mid-June, we are starting to feel an urgency around getting the ball rolling on getting custody changed.  DH and I wrote up a schedule that we felt was very liberal, sending ss13 home once a month plus most all of the holidays, only alternating Christmas and Thanksgiving.

We are looking for some suggestions on how to proceed.  Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.  Also, if there are any recommendations for attorneys in Indianapolis.

Thank you all so much for your help!  Your website has been such a godsend to us over the years!