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I appreciate everybody that gave me advice through all this. Thank you very much I will keep everybody updated once I get back and start everything.

NYParent I sent you a private message asking you a few things.

She was the same with the telephone calls when I would call her and she would have to return my calls. I didn't keep track of those because I was leaving soon and didn't find it necessary at the time. So it's not just one thing it's a lot of different things that are just irritating me and just wish I could switch up and have the custody because I know I am more responsible and would be willing to cooperate a lot more.

From what I understood was that for a contempt of court hearing she had to show up there as well. If that's the case and she doesn't show up then what? Jurisdiction is in Idaho and she lives in California and I know for a matter of fact that she can't make it up to Idaho for a court hearing or she just doesn't want to and doesn't think it's necessary.

I guess I just need to do what I need to do and take it slow and do what I can for it. Another question that popped into my head was that she needs to be there for the contempt of court hearings right? What if she doesn't show up? What happens then?

I've been talking to the lawyer about all this. Seems like they are going with a contempt of court and make up time. Which is good I'm happy to at least hear that from the lawyer. So I know it's a start and I'm sure in the end I will get some where with all this and hopefully I can get a change of custody from all this in the end. I just feel that I'm the most responsible one in this whole situation. Seems like the ex wants me out of the children's lives and it shouldn't be that way.

It seems that she gets information that she has to let me talk to the kids through lawyers and if she doesn't action will be taken in court and she complies for the time being and then decides later on nevermind that's too much work for me to keep doing that. That's like in the summer. I wanted to have my son for a few days before I got deployed and she didn't want to let me have him. I told her it was in the decree that I get him in the summer for 2 weeks and she still was refusing me that time. The only way she complied was through the lawyers and being threatened with action if she didn't comply with it. Then she just goes back to the same thing and refuses me all over again. That's why i was wondering if it was possible to get a change of custody because this isn't a 1 time thing. It's on going and it's the same thing each time.

Honestly, I never thought about trying to get anything put in about deployments. I figured the means of communication would still be the same as long as there was an effort on my she would have to put up an effort. To me, it feels like BM is trying to hide the kids from me and not let me be a father to them. I understand there are some dead beat dads that don't want anything to do with the kids but I want to be there for them and be in their lives. I would like to get a change of custody if it's possible at all. I'm having a hard time as it is trying to get into contact with the kids even when I'm back at home. I talked to the lawyer and she says there is something with contempt that I can do.

I talked to my lawyer and the lawyer is saying that I could possibly hold her in contempt of court for it but I would have to do it all when I get back. I have been documenting everything. I am missing a lot of stuff with them while I am gone. I try to talk to the ex but she doesn't make an effort or says that she is too busy for me to see or talk to the kids. As for the hardware, she's already got it all since we have used it when I first arrived and she all of a sudden decided she's too busy and I haven't seen them in the past 2 months.

I am in the military and currently deployed. When the ex and I divorced in the decree it was stated that I were to call and she must return my call that same day. Well, what I'm doing now is emailing her and trying to set up times to talk and see both of my children using the webcam. I don't get a response from her and she doesn't get on the webcam so that I could talk to them and see them. Do I have a claim in holding her in contempt of court even though I'm deployed? Also, I was wondering what consequences may come out of this on her part? I would really like to have custody of the children as I feel that I would be the more responsible adult in allowing visitation and letting her talk to the kids. Would I be able to use this to have custody changed?Any help would be appreciated.