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The plan has been accepted by the courts and the other parent, we came up with it together.

The child is 8.  There aren't any family members or friends that we deal with here, we have a pretty screwed up family.

She wants to be where ever we (my husband and her siblings are), she could care less about her dad not being there honestly because she stays with her grandmother during his visitation, he's always to busy for her.

He doesn't even pay child support, I dropped his order so why would I pay for transportation?

So my parenting plan says "If either the Father or Mother should decide to move from his or her present resident such that this Parenting Plan could no longer be followed as written, the parent who is planning such a move will inform the other parent at least 30 days prior to the mogve and will work with the other parent to recise the Parenting Plan either directly or through Mediation, as appropriate"

So I'm moving to Florida (we currently live in Maryland) and want to provide him with his 30 days notice.  What should the letter say? 

I've gone through it and when abuse was disclosed to CPS by the child I was given a stay away order (that's not the exact name)... It had who the child should and should come into contact with, for how long and the CPS worker told me the action they were taking next....  (Two states involved, DC and MD) One state referred the case to the police department which did nothing, the other state referred it and the person was itnerviewed, charged, and had a trail...
So I would say ask as many questions as you need to, it shows your concern and it leaves you informed of everything.  I also called every other day just to check up, I wanted to make sure everyone was doing what they were supposed to be doing.

I made accusations aganist my daughters father for 4 years!  The courts kept throwing it out until finally the judge said I'm putting a stop to this mess and ordering a home evaluation on everyone!  That shed light on my case big time and I got the verdict I had been seeking for some time...

In your case though maybe it can help to prove that you are not doing anything, so if I were you I would suggest a home evaluation, and ask for a custody determination or ruling to be postponed until the evaluation can be conducted...

The evalutor meets with significant figures in the kids life as well as your interaction and the spouses interaction and they come to an opinion...
Worth a shot

Ok MB and Davy I see what both of you are saying....

The military says that I am married so a family care plan is not needed.  In the military's eyes my husband maintains custody of the children, which means he'll be the "care plan".  Now that doesn't mean that they are telling me he "has" custody of the child that is not mines, it is up to me to figure that out and they frankly could care less as long as it doesn't effect my mission.

Davy my waivers have all been signed off on... Just waiting for my date to swear in now

In filling out the modification paperwork do I say that I want my husband to be the facilitator?  (I see there seems to be an uproar about that word but that is what the paralegal told me in family court)

My second situation didn't get to many answers so I'll ask again in this way...  My husband wants to go to Florida while I'm in basic and AIT because his mom is there, he'll have a support system and help with the kids (since there are five in all)...  Can I ask the courts to allow me to move to Florida to get the family settled and then ship for basic?

Just wanted you all to know that I told the father that I was leaving for the army in January and he instantly said our daughter is coming to live with me right, I laughed in his face and said I wasn't giving up custody to him, he claimed he wouldn't ask me to, to just let him keep her, he must thinks I'm a fool!

So anyway I went straight to the court house after the conversation, filed for modification of our order.  I was told because I'm not asking to change the visitation schedule I just need to change the wording of the order to say that my husband will become the facilitator and maintain my custody while I'm away at basic, of course once I get my duty station I'll have to mod again, but that's how the paralegals said it will be done, because they just had a military case that went the same way, the grandmother actually became the facilitator though...
So thanks for all of the advise, it helped me so much!

Thanks for all the great advice

I read my order and it says that if the mother or father wishes to move and the parenting plan can not be executed as set forth the moving parent must provide 30 days notice to the other parent and the parents must come up with a replacement plan or use mediation before coming to court....

Oh and as far as what does my order say, it's something to the effect that we'll agree on any moves out of state.... I'll get the exact wording tonight...

I'm married with four other children and accordingus to the military I don't need a family care plan because custody stays with my now husband, whose raised her since she was 1, she knows him better than her own father.... 

My concern is that me going to florida now helps us to not be homeless, but might gine my daughter's father reason to drag me in court and either make me come back or postpone my move.... my mother in law has a 6 bedroom house that she's offered us to live in , rent free, until I get my duty station (six months down the line)...

Here's the situation, I've always had physical and legal custody of my eight year old daughter.  Two years ago a home evaluator came in because I suspected sexual abuse on my daughters father part (he had visitation with her).  The evaluation was completly against him, and supported what I was saying...  He had supervised visitation at a center, stopped coming, never heard from him until two years later when I got served papers to give him visitation.  I had a crappy lawyer because she wanted to settle instead of letting the judge rule, so we have a parenting plan that gives him every other weekend, mainly because psychiatrist said she was to young for therahy, she had been abused but it was to hard to pin point who...

So fast forward, he starts seeing her, and a couple of months later me and my husband want to move to Alabama, to make a better life so we thought, he agreed with us leaving and sent for her during holidays, we only stayed for nine months because the economy was even worse than where we are from, Maryland.  We came back to Maryland, no jobs and no place, staying with family....  Now we have to leave where we were staying and are facing becoming homeless, our only option is to move to Florida (currently in Maryland) but I'm worried that this will cause my daughter's father to drag me in court screaming I'm unstable...

Not ot mention in January I ship out for the US Army, and within six months from then I'll have a new duty station...

So am I risking everything going to Florida but not having my family homeless?

Do I appear unstable and unfit?