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Who do you call for something like that? I didn't know all of this because this is the first time I have been here. Dang! This is pretty scary and really disappointing. Is Davy right about what he says if so please inform more because it seems that ocean has a different belief in the matter. I really hope that may be the case though Davy and I thank you for chiming in because ill take any advice and opinions right now. Im so blown away by how I can be stuck never seeing her and have to pay all of this. If she was here I would provide for her not the state of CA. She was born here. I want to raise her here where there is a good community and good public schools not down in gangville CA where I have no idea what this woman is doing with their money and mine. Grrrrr......

So should I try to file for temporary custody asap while they are here for four days or will that even do anything? I got a call over a year ago from a child support service in CA where they live and I told him to not call my phone anymore because they do not know anything about me or this situation. I changed addresses and phone numbers back then too because that is how crazy this woman is. But yesterday when they got into town I gave her my phone number and she has been contacting people I know trying to find out where I work and live and more personal info about my healthy life that does not include her. She claims she doesn't want money but I feel like that is the whole reason she came here to find out all my info to file child support against me. I know this girl is very mentally unstable but masks it very well these days just like she did to me to get pregnant the first time we were together. There is a lot of her personal history that is extremely crazy that I could possibly prove like suicide attempts that required hospitalization and major counseling and medications and very into masturbation with things like torture pornography or whatever its called. Astounding and degrading I call it.  Weird stuff but I put a program on her computer that runs in the back ground and takes screenshots every five seconds and was absolutely blown away to discover so much. Thanks so much for your responses to this as I am not sure how to go about any of it really and did not have the money when she left but now I am financially stable enough to care for the child as I do for another right now.

Thanks for your answers and bieng so quick to respond this is absolutely a great website. 

This has to be the most frustrating situation I have ever gone through! I just can't understand how she can just up and leave like that and I have zero rights all of a sudden. When she tells me that she has full custody at this point is that even possible?

Hi Ocean thank you sommuch for your response to someone else's problem. They are just visiting for four days, she has a sister up here. The child was born here and I took care of the both of them for about 15 months to the fullest of my ability which was pretty good. She is refusing to let me have her at all for the few days she is here cause she says she doesn't know me and my girlfriend. We are very good people in my opinion and have prepared and are more than capable of taking care of her. Is it possible for her to have full custody at this point cause that is what she claims. If I did happen to get her for the 3 days would I be in trouble for not giving her back? I'm having a really tough time with letting her go again now that i may be able to get her. I don't see how she can just get away with taking off and refusing my little girl to me like this. Don't I have the right to keep her here. SO CONFUSED......

I am a 27 year old father who lives in Montana and I have a little girl who i haven't seen in a  over a year because the mother is crazy. She is diagnosed with manic depression and more mental issues and has been in the hospital on repeated suicide attempts and is on heavy depression medicine. She has been in and out of counseling her whole life and so have a number of her 4 sisters. . There was a lot of the ex boyfriend stuff going on even while she was pregnant and I was paying for everything at my home and taking care of her from day 1 until my daughter was 3 months old. She left Montana all of a sudden one day while I was gone and moved to California. She took money, everything that friends and family had given for the child and just up and left. She did not tell me where or anything for quite a while. Yesterday, a year and a half later she flew to Montana and told me she wanted to meet up so I could see my daughter. We spent 1 hour at McDonald's and now she will not even let me have her for the few days she will be here because she says I didn't tell her about my job or where I live and that she doesn't know my girlfriend. Its all a game. There is absolutely no reason to keep her from me. I am not abusive or anything like that. I'm a very calm, collective person and have been helping raise another little girl for over a year thankfully with a woman who loves me and we have a very stable environment at home! She is up here prying info from people about my job and my life. I do not trust her at all. She is very into trying to mess with my mind and make me fight with her and that is not how I operate. When I saw her she said that she has full custody as of right now and I'm not sure if thats possible my name is on the birth certificate and I have never ever agreed to that. Is she kidnapping? Is this legal at all? What can I do? I cant get her to let me see her now because she is saying she thinks I wont give her back which I honestly think about. Please Help......