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Thank you for the response.  So how do i comfortably offer my help on fathers days without him or (sm) getting upset?  I do make sure to make it clear, i am here to help with our childs needs before i take any further action.  Before court order came to be, I had full custody (verbably between father). Child lived with me and i did everything for child and did allow father to be a part of her whenever he wished.  On the same note, i had a family emergency out of town for six months. Before going out of town i asked childs father if he would help and keep her in private school, soccer, girl scouts while i was out of town??  Father agreed however he lived with his parents at the time and was not married to his wife yet. (they've been married 1yr and dating 2yrs to my recollection)  During those 6 months i would visit our child in the weekends (2-3 a month) and call her gramma every morning at 610am to make sure child was up and ready for school.  Then after school i would call again to see how her day was then before bed time i would talk to child again.  Every thing i did in those 6 months was acceptable to her father and i would suppose his girl friend at the time...
  I also feel its an issue with father when i remind him of certain meetings pertaining to our child on his days.  Or even to let him know if he has made tuition payments, homework packet signed...  There has been occasions when our child does not have home work packet signed or complete (which happen to be on thursdays) Or school will let me know he has not paid his half of tuition.  He takes it as a form of harrasment.  Is that a form of harrasment on my end???

Its now a year that i have a custody court order for my child.  The court order is set for 2-2 5-5 witch levels down to 50% for each parent. I recently find myself being involve with my child on the days that i don't have her which are every wed and thursday and alternating weekends (fri -sun). My chlid gets picked up from school by father's parents. Grandparent does not have  car so i go to her school on those days and give my daughter a ride with grandparent in car. To me i think that is okay and should be acceptable because i care for her safety and like to see how her day went at school. However i don't know if thats against a court order.  Also where my childs father gets upset at me is when i get involve in childs extra activities (dance class/ school functions) that don't fall on my days ( mon and tues alternating weekends fri -sun). For example their has been occasions where her dad or wife don't take our child to dance class so i offer my help and if she is still at grandparents home before 530 pm. I will pick her up and take her to class. His argument is why am i involve on his days? He will add his wife gets upset at the fact im involve on his days and they have threaten me that they will go to court for this matter! Now i have never been introduced to his wife since he has been with her 3yrs now. My dilema is am i doing wrong or violationg court order?? This is my first post but i am desperetly in need or advise! Thank you very much for your help.