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The Ex is trying to stop me having my Daughter for the 4 weeks that was agreed upon. She's already trying to make me go for an extra weekend without seeing my daugter because of mothers day.
since it's the summer comming up and I want her for the month as stipulated (though no date was aggreed upon) whats to stop me from picking her up like it's a normal weekend and keeping her for 4 weeks??

her mother already knows that I want her for the summer and knows that I'm talking about June.

so what should I do?

Please advise.. this Ex is driving me insane with her complete unwillingness to cooperate!!

Shall I just send her an Email telling her that I will have Daughter for 4 weeks when I pick her up in June?

or what??

Hey Everyone :)

OK heres the scoop,
The Ex Enrolled my daughter in starting in late september about 2 months after some of the interim hearings where she was advised that the outcome of the case would result in a visitation consistant with the normal 2 weekends a month and a month in the summer.

though she was not at the time ordered.

The Early intervention was for Speech and Language, though at a year old (At the time) I'm very confused as to why that was the case.

I asked the director to pass along all reports and signed enrollment forms from the mother so I can Examine them for my records.
I don't know if that is a right I have as they include earnings from the mother.. So if anyone knows, I'd like to hear from you.

The Director said that she could be away for as much as 30 days and if nessasary would have someone come to my home during the visit to continue the course here once (Though I am a coupleof hours away)

Which I thought was nice.

So there you have it.

Thank you all :)

Hiya

She is in Early Head start  AND Early intervention,
She seems completely normal, Very Bright, intelligent, no problems with Speech, Motor Skills or Behaviour.

Her mother thinks that she is some "Super Genius" And believes that I am interfereing with her education if I have her for a whole 4 weeks.
and that if I take her for the whole 4 weeks then she will be disqualified from Early Head start. (Remember that she is only 21 months old) I talked to the Early education people and I'm finding out that she can be away for a month without risk of losing the Enrolment or missing out on any education.

I'm about to find out (Tomorrow) as to what made them want her in the Intervention.

I'm also going to find out when she was Enrolled, and that if she was enrolled at a time when her mother knew I'd be awarded a month in the summer, then she has deliberately set up the Early head start to try to prevent me from having her for the month.

Does this make sense?

Thanks to you all :)

BM, has just mentioned that My daughter is also in early intervention as well.
What does that mean?

It's the first I've heard of it.

Any thoughts?

Thank you so much for the advice..

She's in early head start but lives 2 & 1/2 hrs away I cannot afford to take her back and forth.

It sounds like she will be trying everything under the sun to prevent me from excersising my rights, So I will stick to my Guns.

Appreciate the reply, very much. :)

I have a 21 month old daughter and won a visitation order for 2 week ends a month and 4 weeks in the summer.

The Ex is saying that my daughter is in early head start and as a result, I cannot have her for the full 4 weeks, I can only have her for a week on and week off..
Can she do that????

The aggreement has one paragraph that says that we shall cooperate and follow through on education, tutoring, additional educational or remedial,  but there are at least 2 paragraphs that say she is not to interfere with my parenting time,  set up any activities during my parenting time or deny me any parenting time in any manner..

Any advice?

Hey Gypsy,

I'm actually fighting for custody.

the supervised visitation was just a preliminary to see if me an my Daughter would bond, which we have.

then we would go on to unsupervised visits etc..

the case for custody will be heard in a few months.
I was told that the EX has just handed me her "Aces" thus severely weakened her case. she has proven to a court appointed person that she cannot control her anger.


My greatest concern is this, everyone on this forum know not to piss off the Supervisor on these visits, Even the EX should have known better than to scream and threaten a court appointed supervisor..

if she's like this when she has to be on her best behavior, then what are they like behind closed doors?

I'm sure my lawyer will make this argument and then some..
I'm just hopefull that the judge see's it in the same way.

My original chances of getting custody were 60/40 against, what do you think they are now, after this episode?

Thanks for your advice Gypsy..
I will be as cool as a cucumber.. and watch what I say to anyone..

Hello all,

My Lawyer sent me the report from my visitations (thus far)

I was on my third (Of four) visitations, and was allowed to have my GF with me to be introduced to my baby. (Per My Lawyer)

The ex saw us leave as she came over to pick up my daughter.  

According to the report from the supervisor,  the EX and her Mother screamed at the supervisor "Your Fired!"  and "How could you let that bitch be in here with my daughter"
the report said that She 'Yanked' the baby from the supervisor and continued to scream obscenities at her. She was asked to leave by the supervisor who was not going to allow them to scream at her any longer.
the report added how the Ex GF and her Mother both got in her face and yelled and screamed as well as continuing to do so after as they were leaving the building..


I have followed your advise throughout the supervised visits, and have actually generated a good relationship with the supervisor, She is actually quite cool, and helps out during my visitations,  she said really nice things about me regarding my visits and the bond I'm developing with my daughter.

I actually appreciate her being there.

People are telling me that I will win custody because of all this.... Will I??

please tell me what you think, I'm scared to hope that I could win this case...


I appreciate you all .. thank you .
:)

Thanks Gypsy..

I'm trying to get custody of my daughter, and although I havent seen them, I'm not scared of them..

It's like this, my friend.
If it would garentee me getting custody of my daughter, I'd happily take a beating, any day of the week.

I suppose it is meant getting their children, anyone in this forum would.

To me this is an opportunity to show a court what she's like, to prove that she's so stupid, that she cannot just do what the court says, and is willing to resort to getting her little bunch of "Moron" friends to do the dirty work, and break the law to get what she wants.

It would be worth it to hear the judge tell the EX she's lost.

Do you know what I mean?

She will hacve the Video camera, I will have the voice recorder and there will be someone nearby... without a doubt there will be a recording of everything that happens to me, but the question is..

if I am threatened, in any way.. how much harm will that do the Ex's case?

I'm intrested to know.