This is my first post and sorry for the rambling but i'll try to make my story as short and sweet as possible.
I met a woman few months back, we both fell madly in love, i moved her in to my place, she then wanted to get married and we agreed. She then wanted to hurry up the wedding and get married quickly and try for a baby. We married in less than 2 months, she got pregnant the week of our wedding and everything was fine and rosy. Both of us had been single for a long while and just knew this was it. We both come from Europe and are Resident Aliens not US Citizens.
She wanted to move so i found us a house to rent and we signed the lease in Feb and moved in and all of a sudden she totally changed.
First it was my snoring and that led to me just basically being a piece of crap. Now everyone's told me that women change when becoming pregnant but i dont think this is hormones because it is constant hostility towards me, not and up and down thing.
2 days ago she informed me that she does not want to share her life with me and that i'm not as strong of a person as she needs. Her only explanation was that when we met she was on medication (vicoden and muscle relaxers for back and neck injury) and that now that she's "Clear" she no longer wants anything to do with me and that she wants a divorce.
She agreed to live in the house till the baby is born and the 4 months after that till the lease is up, mostly because she does not have the financial means to support her self. (i pay all the bills now) but that she still wants a divorce before the baby is born.
I called my attorney friend and found out that custody issues cannot be solved in our state up until the baby is born and that most likely a judge would not grant a divorce before the baby is born.
I "bought some time" by saying that let me get my head straight and i'm going back to Europe for a week to be with family so she's not going to serve me immediately.
She's saying that she wants me to be a part of the baby's life, but not hers but obviously i cant trust her on anything. It's like a bad soap opera, in 3 months i go from the best in the world to the worst. And let me add that there was no "real" reason for her behavior, i did not change, cheat or beat her or anything like that. There was no dramatic situation that could have made her feel this way.
Any help in both what my actions should be and if anyone's ever been in a situation similar to mine would be appreciated. I dont know what's going to happen when she wants to go do the divorce and i'm gonna have to tell her what the reality is and that i want either full or 50/50 custody of this child.
To add, i'm not wealthy or anything like that so her reasons for marrying me must have been love. Now if she only wanted a baby why rush me into marriage. Actually i believe that it's better this way when the time for custody comes that we are married.
Sorry for the rambling and confusing story but my life has been totally turned upside down these past 2 days and i'm just trying to collect and get as much info and ammo for me and my babys best interest.
I have backing from friends and family in finacial matters and much more stability in my past life than she does, i dont know how it actually works but she really cannot afford to do anything on her small salary. and if this gets really ugly i believe i can prove her as an unstable person, she's had some psychiatric visits in the past and her behaviour with me these last 6 months surely shows that she's unbalanced and she does not have the financial means to hire any good attorneys.
I met a woman few months back, we both fell madly in love, i moved her in to my place, she then wanted to get married and we agreed. She then wanted to hurry up the wedding and get married quickly and try for a baby. We married in less than 2 months, she got pregnant the week of our wedding and everything was fine and rosy. Both of us had been single for a long while and just knew this was it. We both come from Europe and are Resident Aliens not US Citizens.
She wanted to move so i found us a house to rent and we signed the lease in Feb and moved in and all of a sudden she totally changed.
First it was my snoring and that led to me just basically being a piece of crap. Now everyone's told me that women change when becoming pregnant but i dont think this is hormones because it is constant hostility towards me, not and up and down thing.
2 days ago she informed me that she does not want to share her life with me and that i'm not as strong of a person as she needs. Her only explanation was that when we met she was on medication (vicoden and muscle relaxers for back and neck injury) and that now that she's "Clear" she no longer wants anything to do with me and that she wants a divorce.
She agreed to live in the house till the baby is born and the 4 months after that till the lease is up, mostly because she does not have the financial means to support her self. (i pay all the bills now) but that she still wants a divorce before the baby is born.
I called my attorney friend and found out that custody issues cannot be solved in our state up until the baby is born and that most likely a judge would not grant a divorce before the baby is born.
I "bought some time" by saying that let me get my head straight and i'm going back to Europe for a week to be with family so she's not going to serve me immediately.
She's saying that she wants me to be a part of the baby's life, but not hers but obviously i cant trust her on anything. It's like a bad soap opera, in 3 months i go from the best in the world to the worst. And let me add that there was no "real" reason for her behavior, i did not change, cheat or beat her or anything like that. There was no dramatic situation that could have made her feel this way.
Any help in both what my actions should be and if anyone's ever been in a situation similar to mine would be appreciated. I dont know what's going to happen when she wants to go do the divorce and i'm gonna have to tell her what the reality is and that i want either full or 50/50 custody of this child.
To add, i'm not wealthy or anything like that so her reasons for marrying me must have been love. Now if she only wanted a baby why rush me into marriage. Actually i believe that it's better this way when the time for custody comes that we are married.
Sorry for the rambling and confusing story but my life has been totally turned upside down these past 2 days and i'm just trying to collect and get as much info and ammo for me and my babys best interest.
I have backing from friends and family in finacial matters and much more stability in my past life than she does, i dont know how it actually works but she really cannot afford to do anything on her small salary. and if this gets really ugly i believe i can prove her as an unstable person, she's had some psychiatric visits in the past and her behaviour with me these last 6 months surely shows that she's unbalanced and she does not have the financial means to hire any good attorneys.