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BM agreed to the custody arrangement my fiance proposed without batting an eye...it gives them 50/50 custody.  Is almost what it was...fiance was about 4 overnights shy a month of 50/50 due to BM not allowing them.  About 3 hours later, after everyone had signed off on it and left, she decided to change her mind.  My fiance tried to work with her by adjusting pick up and drop off times (our attorney said to absolutely not give up any overnights) so she could spend more time with her son.  She begged the first day and then got nasty the next.  Has upset SS by saying things to him that shouldn't have been brought up.  He's only 3 and would adjust quite fine, but she was hystarical and told SS all about it.  I guess my biggest concern is that if she takes us back what are our chances of losing the 50/50???  My fiances biggest worry is loosing time with his son!!!  He looked like he hit the lotto when he walked out of the mediation!!!  We are willing to pay what ever support is needed, just want to keep 50/50.  Any advice?

I am engaged to a wonderful man who has a three year old son.  His ex moved out when his son was 6 months old, they had been split up prior to that she was just using him for a place to stay. (they were never married)  We have been together over two years now and are trying to get things right.  He has paid her whatever money she has asked for and has bent over backwards to help her out, but it is a one way street.  He finally put his foot down to her taking time away from us with his son and now she has filed for support through the court.  Prior to her filing we had told her we wanted to get what we had in writing, and she agreed.  Now she is saying that she won' t agree to anything but primary custody, and we want shared custody.  We have Jayden (his son) every Friday thru Sunday and every other Thursday.  We would like more time with him but she will not allow us to.  John has tried to keep a journal of things that have happened but we only have about a years worth.  He tried very hard to keep his family together and it took him a long time to realize that she was only out for herself.  He goes to domestic relations on the 24th and we have a mediation set up for next month.  I have been trying to find info on shared parenting but I don't feel I have found enough.  I would like some advice on how to prepare for all of this and what we need to do to convince the courts that it's in Jayden's best interest to have equal amount of time with both parents.  Somethings you read say courts are more for shared custody now and some say they aren't.  We are terrified to loose anytime that we have with him and need shared custody to prevent that.