Me and my husband are retaining an attorney to take his ex back to court to have the child custody reversed.
It has been 8 years since their divorce. The daughter is 10 years old and wants to live with us she had asked her mom at the end of her stay with us this summer was told no.
Their divorce was in Illinois, we have lived here in Minnesota for 3 years, moved here for job and better lifestyle.
We have always stayed in close contact with our daughter, he flies down to see her on his days off, she comes here for summer we travel there for holidays.
In the past eight years here are some of the changes that has gone on:
-She (ex) has moved about 4 times, has been married twice since her divorce to my husband (and daughter says she and current husband are talking of divorce now and fight a lot)
-She has done all in her power to cut contact with us (she has now taken away her home phone and refuses to allow her daughter to use her cell phone saying her boss bought it for her job-she is a stripper).
-She is never home at night she leaves "L" with her friends, "L's" friends, at home w/ 15 year old brother who doesnt even live there, her mom ("L's) grandma, never a set place.
-She sleeps during the days even on weeknds and has "L" fix her own meals, has her clean house, yard, ect.
-She spends no quality time with her instead takes her "shopping" to spend time together getting their nails done together, ect.
-Has absurd vulgar tattoo's of naked ladies w/ her "clubs" logo on it w/ a dancer naked.
-Has taken "L" to work with her during and closed buisiness hours, takes her shopping for her costumes to work in, "L" is well aware of what her mother does (she has tried to mock her actions here in the summer @ 6yrs old rolled her shorts up till her hieney was hanging out told her not nice for a lil girl to do that she says "my mom lets me do it like hers")
-Has recently been catching onto to her mom's way of lying to people and notices it now more.
-We go to church and "L" loves it as where her mom is athiest and pokes fun about the bible we bought "L" for her b-day.
-Has lost custody of other two children 7-8 years ago, grandparents has one boy and the other boy lives with his dad.
-Has told "L" if she does go live with her father she cant take nothing not even her dog, to hold things over her head, and says things like "what would make you want to live with him, your just being dumb"
-This summer was the first summer "L" and her lil sister actually connected (young one is 4 now able to play with and such), well they really bonded, and the day we took "L" back to her mom the girls were falling apart in each others arms was so sad, her mom came over and stuck her head in the door and says "come on "L" why do you do this to yourself, get over it and get out, we gotta get going", should no sympathy at all to the situation.
I know there is no physical abuse but this plus her being in contempt of court on several issues anyone who has been through a custody reversal how do you see this playing out in court?
Just to say the lawyer we have is very good Family Law only, have had his representation in past and won, also knows her back ground has dealt with her before with her one son getting him taken away, so we fell pretty confident in our attorney but does anyone know how the courts are now days in reversal of custody, and fathers getting it in ILLINOIS?
Thank You-
Excited & Scared in Minnesota
It has been 8 years since their divorce. The daughter is 10 years old and wants to live with us she had asked her mom at the end of her stay with us this summer was told no.
Their divorce was in Illinois, we have lived here in Minnesota for 3 years, moved here for job and better lifestyle.
We have always stayed in close contact with our daughter, he flies down to see her on his days off, she comes here for summer we travel there for holidays.
In the past eight years here are some of the changes that has gone on:
-She (ex) has moved about 4 times, has been married twice since her divorce to my husband (and daughter says she and current husband are talking of divorce now and fight a lot)
-She has done all in her power to cut contact with us (she has now taken away her home phone and refuses to allow her daughter to use her cell phone saying her boss bought it for her job-she is a stripper).
-She is never home at night she leaves "L" with her friends, "L's" friends, at home w/ 15 year old brother who doesnt even live there, her mom ("L's) grandma, never a set place.
-She sleeps during the days even on weeknds and has "L" fix her own meals, has her clean house, yard, ect.
-She spends no quality time with her instead takes her "shopping" to spend time together getting their nails done together, ect.
-Has absurd vulgar tattoo's of naked ladies w/ her "clubs" logo on it w/ a dancer naked.
-Has taken "L" to work with her during and closed buisiness hours, takes her shopping for her costumes to work in, "L" is well aware of what her mother does (she has tried to mock her actions here in the summer @ 6yrs old rolled her shorts up till her hieney was hanging out told her not nice for a lil girl to do that she says "my mom lets me do it like hers")
-Has recently been catching onto to her mom's way of lying to people and notices it now more.
-We go to church and "L" loves it as where her mom is athiest and pokes fun about the bible we bought "L" for her b-day.
-Has lost custody of other two children 7-8 years ago, grandparents has one boy and the other boy lives with his dad.
-Has told "L" if she does go live with her father she cant take nothing not even her dog, to hold things over her head, and says things like "what would make you want to live with him, your just being dumb"
-This summer was the first summer "L" and her lil sister actually connected (young one is 4 now able to play with and such), well they really bonded, and the day we took "L" back to her mom the girls were falling apart in each others arms was so sad, her mom came over and stuck her head in the door and says "come on "L" why do you do this to yourself, get over it and get out, we gotta get going", should no sympathy at all to the situation.
I know there is no physical abuse but this plus her being in contempt of court on several issues anyone who has been through a custody reversal how do you see this playing out in court?
Just to say the lawyer we have is very good Family Law only, have had his representation in past and won, also knows her back ground has dealt with her before with her one son getting him taken away, so we fell pretty confident in our attorney but does anyone know how the courts are now days in reversal of custody, and fathers getting it in ILLINOIS?
Thank You-
Excited & Scared in Minnesota