My BF has joint custody but visitations is standard. Every other weekend, two week days every other week, alternating holidays and three weeks in the summer.
His ex does not follow the CO unless she has to (law officers will enforce visitation - or she would deny those) She treats my BF as if he is a babysitter that the court has ordered her use. The divorce was final 2 years ago. He usually does not say anything to her regarding her following the CO. - they are basically no contact. BF doesn't want the conflict.
A couple of weeks ago, oldest daughter (OD) had a school concert. The only reason he found out about it was because he showed up at school (he usually comes to school to see her about once a week) the day of the concert and asked him if he was coming. He could not come because it was short notice. He sent his ex an email and quoted the CO that said each parent is to notify the other parent of all school activities that the parents are invited to (like a concert). She wrote back that she only found out about it the day before (yet still couldn't notify him) but she claims it's not her job to keep him informed. He does his best trying to stay informed of school activities - he goes to the school every week, talks to the teacher, involved in PTA, but the problem is the school doesn't update their website and information is sent home with the student. However, the ex doesn't relay the information to him. So that is the only time that he has written her and asked her to in the future follow the CO - but she will probably not do it.
Last week OD told us that they were going to another state for spring break - she didn't know when or where. The CO says that each parent is to notify the other parent a basic schedule, location and phone numbers where the children can be reached if the parent takes the children out of town. She has never said a word about taking the kids out of town for spring break. I'm assuming that since OD told us where they were going for spring break (vaguely) that is she is not required to say anything more. Although it also says in the CO not to use the children as messangers.
He hasn't been able to talk to them in a week, although he has tried once each evening. CO says reasonable phone contact - but that's a another issue. Should he send her an email similar to the one he sent about the concert stating that he understands that they went out of town for spring break, but according to the CO he should be notified and to please in the furture notify him when she will be taking the kids out of town?
Not to mention that because they are with the ex for spring break and Easter weekend, the kids won't be able to see their dad for 25 days and he feels the least she could do is let him talk to them every couple of days. If he brings up calling them and her not having them call him back, she will probably claim that they didn't have phone service in the other state - which I doubt is true. Not to mention if they are staying at a hotel, hotels usually have phones.
That woman just frustrates me to no end!
His ex does not follow the CO unless she has to (law officers will enforce visitation - or she would deny those) She treats my BF as if he is a babysitter that the court has ordered her use. The divorce was final 2 years ago. He usually does not say anything to her regarding her following the CO. - they are basically no contact. BF doesn't want the conflict.
A couple of weeks ago, oldest daughter (OD) had a school concert. The only reason he found out about it was because he showed up at school (he usually comes to school to see her about once a week) the day of the concert and asked him if he was coming. He could not come because it was short notice. He sent his ex an email and quoted the CO that said each parent is to notify the other parent of all school activities that the parents are invited to (like a concert). She wrote back that she only found out about it the day before (yet still couldn't notify him) but she claims it's not her job to keep him informed. He does his best trying to stay informed of school activities - he goes to the school every week, talks to the teacher, involved in PTA, but the problem is the school doesn't update their website and information is sent home with the student. However, the ex doesn't relay the information to him. So that is the only time that he has written her and asked her to in the future follow the CO - but she will probably not do it.
Last week OD told us that they were going to another state for spring break - she didn't know when or where. The CO says that each parent is to notify the other parent a basic schedule, location and phone numbers where the children can be reached if the parent takes the children out of town. She has never said a word about taking the kids out of town for spring break. I'm assuming that since OD told us where they were going for spring break (vaguely) that is she is not required to say anything more. Although it also says in the CO not to use the children as messangers.
He hasn't been able to talk to them in a week, although he has tried once each evening. CO says reasonable phone contact - but that's a another issue. Should he send her an email similar to the one he sent about the concert stating that he understands that they went out of town for spring break, but according to the CO he should be notified and to please in the furture notify him when she will be taking the kids out of town?
Not to mention that because they are with the ex for spring break and Easter weekend, the kids won't be able to see their dad for 25 days and he feels the least she could do is let him talk to them every couple of days. If he brings up calling them and her not having them call him back, she will probably claim that they didn't have phone service in the other state - which I doubt is true. Not to mention if they are staying at a hotel, hotels usually have phones.
That woman just frustrates me to no end!