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My case is completely convoluted, messy, and having me feel as though I am trying to find a needle in a haystack. I will try to streamline what happened in an effort to keep from writing a novel while trying not to leave out possible pertinent information all while being anonymous.

A judge ruled about 2/3 years ago I was unfit as a mother due to my oldest son having suffered a life-threatening injury (hematoma on the brain) while in the car of both a male co-worker and I. The judge felt that I either knew about said abuse and/or am covering for said male co-worker. The GAL assigned to the case, along with my attorney, proved the only variant factor in my son's care during the time was the male co-worker. I did have a second son during the above case (coupled with a divorce) with this same male co-worker. The judge met with all the attorneys after the case to which she advised my attorney she recommended I see a counselor/therapist for a few things in addition to me getting myself more established. My attorney passed these suggestions on to me and said the earliest I could file for any type of modification (it was set at me having supervised visitation with each son at least once a week for at least 2 hours) would be 2 years unless a major change occurred.

*There was no evidence to me during the time of visits with my coworker, son, and I, that anything was out of the ordinary let alone abuse.
*The sheriff assigned to investigate the abuse led me to believe my ex was the one who abused my son and this was the mentality of everyone involved (DHR, sheriff's office, my attorney, myself) for the first year or so of the pending case.
*I did sleep with said male co-worker PRIOR to him even being on the radar as a suspect of the abuse as he was NEVER left alone with my son; this resulted in aforementioned pregnancy.
*After I discussed possibly getting an abortion due to everything going on already with my first child, male coworker became physically violent with me. I did not have my 'light bulb' moment until then; contacting my attorney immediately to tell her what happened.
*I did move in with him a few months afterwards (although I was staying with him prior to the abuse incident as I moved out of my ex's house) thinking I could find some sort of evidence he abused my oldest son. STUPID MISTAKE. This was of course used against me.

I admit I made stupid decisions, I take FULL responsibility for what happened to my son as he was in my care at the time and have not ever deviated from that, and have done everything the judge recommended/suggested.

My questions is this: How does one go about proving to the court I am a fit mother? I would like to move from having the one visit each week to more visits/time, unsupervised visits, then to gaining custody back. My oldest son lives with his father, my youngest with his paternal aunt. The best thing for my oldest is to stay primarily with his father due to my son being established with a school, routine, etc., but I would like to share custody; my youngest I feel needs to be with me.
Again, I have done everything the judge recommended/suggested, same is applicable with DHR and the law enforcement agencies, yet I feel I am stuck.

I know my post is probably all over the place but I really want to be a mom.

Thank you.